If you are an guy and have flaws - mission impossible?

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01 Jun 2015, 8:18 am

Is it not? If a guy have something bad with him, like an ugly face, too red lips, very short, stupid etc, its over. The dude will have heave problem getting a girl.

If you have several flaws, like me, then it is truly mission impossible? Becuse females have huge demands on males. Females know that they can get someone better.

I dont belive in this crap like "love" and stuff like that, its all about fame, good look, personality, hornyness, and money.

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01 Jun 2015, 8:23 am

You just have to lower or loosen your standards regarding the kind of women you will date.

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01 Jun 2015, 8:35 am

Fnord wrote:

You just have to lower or loosen your standards regarding the kind of women you will date.

My standards is the lowest that exist.

If im not misstaken, around 5 % of males of every generation will be alone their entire life, I think im one of this dudes. Females have to much demands on males. Thus, around 5 % of males can't handle it and are being cast out to the dark.

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01 Jun 2015, 8:48 am

Steer clear from dating sites, especially OkC and PoF.

Avoid Tinder too, at all costs.

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01 Jun 2015, 9:22 am

Uprising wrote:

Steer clear from dating sites, especially OkC and PoF.

Avoid Tinder too, at all costs.

Totally agree. The only consequence will be that it will warp your perception of the opposite gender as either stuck up, snotty, entitled bee itches with sky high standards for men or sex crazed lunatics for women. Neither is remotely true but those free sites are filled with both stereotypes.

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01 Jun 2015, 1:22 pm

Well to be honest if i look around girls are ussually not really looking for an attractive guy... More a guy that keeps them interested ow and something to remember is good hygiene
Being confident is the key if being with friends helps with that then don't worry.
look even the alpha males as we nicely describe them will never have a 100% succes rate when hitting on girls
An other reminder is many (what we call) neutypical people dont have a clue what they are doing when talking to the other sex (yes we have a little bit of a harder time)
it is all about training with us believe me in case you have befriended some girls, ask them for tips try flirting with them... Ask if they want to help you practice ... And so on
Hopes this helps and this is how i see it

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01 Jun 2015, 3:01 pm

Perhaps I'm stating the obvious, but everyone has flaws. The people who look like they have everything together just go nuts behind closed doors.

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01 Jun 2015, 3:23 pm

Comets wrote:

Perhaps I'm stating the obvious, but everyone has flaws..

I have 100s of flaws.

Comets wrote:

The people who look like they have everything together just go nuts behind closed doors.

Hahahahahaha. I think not actually.

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01 Jun 2015, 4:59 pm

white_as_snow wrote:

Comets wrote:

Perhaps I'm stating the obvious, but everyone has flaws..

I have 100s of flaws.

Comets wrote:

The people who look like they have everything together just go nuts behind closed doors.

Hahahahahaha. I think not actually.

Okay then. Spending time around actual people every day, it's not like I would have any insight.

Enjoy your pity party.

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01 Jun 2015, 5:19 pm

I have 100's of flaws, too. I'm 5 foot 5, 190 lbs, don't wear the best clothes, walk funny, etc.

And I'm criticized for having been with TOO MANY women.

You have to carry on, despite your flaws.

Rid your mind of this concept that women demand perfection. Like GiantHockeyFan says, stop going to those online dating sites.

Like GiantHockeyFan said as well......they warp your image of what the "real world" is.

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01 Jun 2015, 9:20 pm

I have more than my share of flaws. I'm an Aspie, dyslexic, have a rare low vision disorder & a tremor disorder that acts up when doing things with fine-motor skills. I'm on disability because of all that & I also have some acne scars on my face & scars on my arm from slashing myself. I met all 3 of my girlfriends on forms. The 1st I was friends with for a while & the other two I met here on this site by posting about things aLOT. Not just my problems but how my personality is in a relationship & what I have to offer like being very supportive & caring & affectionate. Both those girls had some problems too & I accepted them. I've been living with my 3rd for a couple years now & we both have our problems but we're both very supportive of each other.

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03 Jun 2015, 12:12 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

If you had 100s of flaws then you would be a virgin like me.

I think you have some flaws, but not 100s, and therefore you can come away more eazy.

I tell you the truth, no girl in the world wants me.

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03 Jun 2015, 12:13 pm

Comets wrote:

white_as_snow wrote:

Comets wrote:

Perhaps I'm stating the obvious, but everyone has flaws..

I have 100s of flaws.

Comets wrote:

The people who look like they have everything together just go nuts behind closed doors.

Hahahahahaha. I think not actually.

Enjoy your pity party.

Pity party sucks. Just wished I could be happy. Im tired of being sad over this stuff.

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03 Jun 2015, 12:17 pm

nick007 wrote:

I have more flaws than you so its impossible for me.

ydroi wrote:

Well to be honest if i look around girls are ussually not really looking for an attractive guy... More a guy that keeps them interested

ow and something to remember is good hygiene

Being confident is the key

if being with friends helps with that then don't worry.
look even the alpha males as we nicely describe them will never have a 100% succes rate when hitting on girls

An other reminder is many (what we call) neutypical people dont have a clue what they are doing when talking to the other sex (yes we have a little bit of a harder time)
it is all about training with us believe me

in case you have befriended some girls, ask them for tips

try flirting with them... Ask if they want to help you practice ... And so on

Hopes this helps and this is how i see it

They are looking for decent looking guy with a decent personality. But they would oufcourse choose a good looking guy if they could.

Guys like me, with 100s of flaws are not something that women wants. Its logic. There is a reason that im 23 years old and still un-kissed.

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03 Jun 2015, 12:23 pm

white_as_snow wrote:

Depends on whether or not your flaws are things women care about or not. Women will tolerate any number of flaws from a man SO LONG as he delivers on what she really wants. Why do you think Rihanna is getting back with Chris Brown?

Of course that's also a double-edged sword; if you DON'T deliver on what women actually want, then no amount of other qualities can actually redeem you in their eyes. Sad but true. :roll:

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04 Jun 2015, 6:01 am

Then aim for self-improvement to decrease your flaws.

Because we do not know what your flaws are, we can't tell you where to start...

If you're overweight for example, work on losing weight...

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