Friends and Emotional Intimacy

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It's been a while since I've last spoken on the topic but despite seeking a psychologist for the past few months I'm still having the same problem, that being I still lack emotional attachment with friends and family. I think it may be because I'm used to forming friendships that are not emotionally involved, hence why I hang out with people with similar interests. But at the same time, I have a very strong desire to have a secure emotional attachment with somebody and for the past few years it's been proving to be more difficult as time has gone by.

So I'm wondering, how difficult is it really to form an emotional bond with anybody? Is there anybody here who actually has a secure attachment with somebody that they are really fond of?

It is difficult and dangerous.

The last time I tried speaking about my emotions with a friend ended in 3 month long depression that I only recently recovered from. He wasn't listening at all and was telling me advice I couldn't be able to comply due to exactly the problems I tried to talk out. It hurt me a lot.

I suspect it depends on either having similar emotions, or both parties being good at seeing other perspectives. Where do you find someone like that? I don't know.