0_equals_true wrote:
How would this be different than men hitting on women????
It isn't. But it beats hitting on several dozen women, only to be creepzoned or friendzoned by every one of them.
0_equals_true wrote:
You are posting anecdotal evidence again, these approaches are not at all empirical. From the sites themselves, to the observer bias, there are many holes. It is not a well constructed experiment.
Well, DUH! It wasn't an experiment at all. It was an
experience, related about 30 years after the fact.
0_equals_true wrote:
Actual studies show that people generally partner with similar level of attractiveness. There would be a population collapse if there really was so much incompatibility.
My experiences do not refute this claim, nor does this claim refute my experiences.
0_equals_true wrote:
Being "hit on" is only part of it, and also many people prefer to communicate in private. People may not like to make public declarations or be hit on in public, unless they are extroverts.
According to this, the man has very little chance of a successful "hit" unless he can separate one of the women from the rest and hit on her in private.
It's been shown in other threads that when it comes to courtship, men are traditionally the persuers, while women are traditionally persued. But put a reasonably good-looking man in a place where reasonably good-looking women gather to engage in social activities. He can either hit on each one of them, ignore them all, or quietly engage in the same activities as everyone else. Which of these behaviors will attract more women?
According to my personal experience, a man is more likely to attract potential mates if he is seen to be interested in the same things as those potential mates. Also, it seems that if a reasonable good-looking man is
not hitting on any of the women in that group (or staring at them), eventually some of them are going to want to know why. In my case, saying "
I just like to skate" seemed to draw them closer. Had I said, "
I'm here to pick up women" like some PUA jerk would do, what do you imagine their reactions would have been?
But no one has to believe me, and I'm not asking them to. Neither am I saying "
You should do this", or "
My way is the only right way". I'm just relating some personal experiences of what
worked for me.