To not look as good as Brad Pitt

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How does it feel for you guys to know that you will never have the same attractiveness as brad pitt-looking guys?
That you can never get a girl's heart beat flips at the sight of you?
Is it not depressing that you can not just squint your eyes and then you will get the women to the bed?

Now you will surely say that its all about confidence.
Whatever. That's not the point. How does it feel to never be able to get girls to fall just because your face?

Never could figure-out what all the fuss is over Brad Pitt. Always thought he looks like maybe an 8/10 at the most, even when he was younger(probably even less in that pic).

If Brad Pitt was working the drive thru people wouldn't find him as attractive, good looking sure but not the standard bearer of male beauty. I think there is probably several other or more important factors as far how attractive a woman finds a man but I probably shouldn't speak for them. Like I've never got just from a looks standpoint why George Clooney is thought as so attractive but I get it based on who he is. So if I were to become super rich and or super famous, then people would find more attractive. That's basically how I see it.

So how do I feel about that? I dunno, I guess there is no point being upset over spilt milk or I guess more luck of the genetic draw. It won't change anything, you have to make the best of the hand you got dealt. I don't think looks are really what have held me back in life. I can still be successful if I work for it... Maybe...

OP, most married men don't look like Brad pitt.

I never dwell on it so it's not something that matters to me.

I could give two s**ts! Really.

He's just some guy.

99.99999% of the population isn't as good looking as world famous movie star. One's options are more or less limited to:

1) accepting that you are not the hottest thing ever, that there are ZILLIONS of people more good looking than you, that you'll NEVER be the hottest thing because, well, statistically 7 billion others on this planet makes it so and moving on with your life, ie making the best of the looks you've got.

2) become bitter and miserable because you aren't and won't ever be as hot as Brad Pitt circa Thelma & Louise. (Hell, Brad Pitt will never be as hot as he was at 25 either!).

Option 1 at least gives you a shot at not being miserable for eternity.

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In terms of straight-up physical appearance (not factoring in personality, charisma, skill, etc), the folks in the top, say, 5% of looks get asked out based purely on thei appearance and the ones in the bottom 5% of looks get given a wide berth because of their looks. It's not right, it's not wrong, it just kind of is.

However, that leaves 90% of the population. The majority of humanity falls into 90% of the population where pure physical appearance doesn't attract/repulse folks.

95% of the population doesn't attract girls (or guys) JUST because of their face. You are (presumably, since you haven't posted a pic) among them. Is that something you WANT to be crying about? To develop a giant chip on your shoulder about? Really??

If you want proof that the not-Brad-Pitt-handsome among us regularly find partners and marry, go ok at the weddings/engagements page of your local paper every week -- there's usually a photo of the couples, plus a brief biography. There are pudgy middle aged dudes/dudettes who work as mechanics, waitresses, accountants, etc. who marry. Weekly.

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The confidence thing? Does matter. Not that you have to be uber-confident to get a girl... more like, self-loathing is easily "sensed" by pretty much everyone, so if you think you're loathesome, others will too.

(And there's stuff that looks CANNOT overcome. A childhood friend is drop-dead, head-turningly gorgeous -- gorgeous enough to have paid for college modeling for J Crew, Delia's, etc -- and perennially single. Because she's batsh!t crazy high-maintenance. It takes a LOT of crazy to offset that much pretty, but, hoo-boy, she manages).

Can you give us some visual examples of those?

Random pics of people you think fall into that "bottom 5% of looks" category?

Ummmm, not really. If you're worried you might possibly be among the bottom 5%, I'd suggest you:

1) post a pic at hotornot.com, so a wide swath of the internet who doesn't know you personally can weigh in.

(Not knowing you personally is important, as they'll evaluate you on pure aesthetics).

2) Post a pic of yourself and an Wrong Planet folks to weigh in.

Does hot or not still work the same? Last I checked it turned to a facebook-tinder thing?

It's confusing, and it's no longer the straightforward merciless looks-rating system - and when I browsed a little for few minutes now (thanks to your post) I got "The most active member in weeks" badge; so I guess no one is active from my area there.

I've done the second (more than once) and found myself to be in the middle 90% zone judging by the reactions on here.

But all in all I was just curious towards your examples of that bottom 5%, as well as other people's on here.

Well, according to okc stats, girls rate 80% of guys as significantly unattractive - so there are a lot of bottom 5% online I guess. lol

I'm not very attractive or good with social skills which is why i'm afraid of using Tinder because its highly superficial. I got it but i'm afraid of talking to my matches because once they see me for who I really am, then they won't like me.

It's not like i'm terrible looking but someone is not going to look at me and be like that guy is attractive. They're just not. You can often gauge how attractive you are by how the opposite sex acts around you.

In fact I would probably be considered unattractive by some women because of how little I am. I'm 5 ft 2, skinny, big head, big nose, awkward smile, weird voice, sh***y social skills, very awkward, and I probably do come off as strange.

If there's anyone who's going to be a 25 virgin and never had a girlfriend, it's going to be me. 20 years old and never even been on a date or gotten a girls number, i'm such a loser with women.

If the folks on this site, more than once, put you in the middle 90% zone then you can safely assume you're in the 90% middle zone, ie appearance alone isn't why you get no dates.

As for the bottom 5%, based on aesthetics only, is the guy listed at #7 on this website:

http://ugliestmenintheworld.blogspot.com

As you've described yourself, you're probably still in the middle 90% looks-wise. The bottom 5% is folks who look like Quasimodo.

You're also 20. Lots and lots of guys (even NT ones) are virgins who've never been on a date at 20... it's within the realm of the more or less "normal". Not so much if you're still that way at 25 (not that it's the end of the world, but it'd be something that'd likely require an explanation or that a girl might not date you as a result of).

The "strange" and "weird voice", you're probably better off embracing (it is what is) but the "sh***y social skills" is fixable. By a therapist, class and/or simply putting yourself out there (probably the 1st two, since the 3rd clearly isn't working). Making the best of the looks you've got, if you haven't already done so, would also help. Let a fashionable friend help you pick outfits from your closet or shop for a few new ones -- which don't need to be expensive. Old Navy has cheap basics and a stylish friend can find awesome stuff at Goodwill or Value Village, or any thrift shop in an upscale neighborhood).

(It's analogous to the best advice I got as a teen regarding jobs: take anyone you can get, even if it's crappy fast food-related. Because it's "no biggie" to have been fired several times if your 15 or 16... but a very big deal to be fired three times in a row at 25 or 30. The "soft skills" we're, ummm, difficult for me and I did get fired a bunch of times from 14-17. By the time I was in college, I was no longer fired and was pretty comfy in interviews).

Why ? What happens in this 5 years also most 15-18 year olds have had sex and relationships so not sure why you think being a 20 year old dateless virgin is normal.