Misunderstood by teacher

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Hello. I feel like i am being misunderstood by one of the new teachers at my school. example: she says one person is missing from class, I correct her by saying two people are actually missing and she just stares at me for like 2 mins?? She seems annoyed with me?? What should I do?

She sounds like a jerk. Talk to your guidance counselor. Many teachers are narcissistic sociopaths that need to bully teenagers because they can't compete in actually society.

I think she is referring to you as the second missing student.

After one minute of staring silence, declare that the teacher has been lost too.

Don't correct teachers, no matter how wrong they are.
They think that transmission of information should go one way: from them to you.
In this situation, they perceive the information you give as a challenge to their authority and that is more important than mere facts.

If you don't correct them, they won't react negatively.

And she will stare at me at random times too. Like when I am in class reading a book (sitting quietly, reading) she will stare at me for a long time and looks kind of angry (during the time I was reading everyone was supposed to read). Why does she do this? I don't understand. She does not do this to any of the other students (even some who are much more disruptive than me)
Any how can I avoid this situation in the future??

Like people said, ignore the teacher. Even if they are wrong or rather, especially when they are wrong. Just be proud that you realize you are right when others above the food chain are wrong. Unless it is something that involves safety. If you go on a field trip and people go swim in a river, and then when the teacher makes a count one is missing but he/she did not notice it by counting wrong, then yes, intervene ! !! !

As for the staring. Don't pay attention to it, some people like to stare. There are countless reasons why you can be stared at, just as many positive as negative. Maybe you do things in a calm way that helps your teacher concentrate better while looking at you. I know it must be annoying, but it does not have to be a bad reason.

Sometimes people react badly to you and it is not because of something you did but because of something that is in them. Unfortunately, there is no way to avoid that type of situation. The best way to handle it that I know is to be polite and ignore their peculiar behavior.

Also, if there is anyone there who might advocate for you, such as a counselor or social worker, you can mention that this behavior is making you uncomfortable and you don't understand it. They might be able to help you cope with it.

She just thinks you are trying to be a smart arse and so is getting annoyed. Most NT kids who correct a teacher in this manner are doing so to be a smart arse and to deliberately annoy the teacher / disrupt the lesson. It is a common joke to deliberately annoy the teacher in this manner. So the teacher is assuming that you are doing the same hence her anger. She thinks you are deliberately trying to provoke her. What she fails to realise that you are probably trying to be helpful and pointing out a factual error on her part.

So my advise. Simply do not correct her on trivial matters such as this. Unless she is teaching the class something that is blatantly wrong then its probably best to ignore the urge to correct the teach on any points that are irrelevant to the lesson. Before correcting the teacher, or indeed anyone, ask yourself does this really matter? If someone mis pronounces something or gets some minor fact wrong in a story does it really matter? Does anyone really benefit from you correcting them on a trivial matter? If its not important then just say nothing. It is deeply annoying to us NTs if we are corrected on every minor error especially by people much younger than us. Now I;m not saying that this is right I;m just telling you the way adult NT's think.

I say that's more her problem than yours. It's pretty common in autism to want to correct things, and she should just be able to recognize that as one of your traits and accept it rather than get all miffed.

I once had a teacher who thought the Sun was a planet. I tried explaining, but no. They can be pretty persistent.

I bet the teacher had that on good authority: http://www.astrology.com/article/planets-sun.html

See, you can't argue with science! /joke

Having someone who with matter-of-fact confidence advocates on your behalf can make a big difference. And this person can also rather act as a fair witness.

And really, students in school are often fed a line of crap. 'You must take care of it yourself,' they tell students, over and over and over again. And if it's a question about whether a paper has been graded correctly, by a teacher who is generally reasonable, that's fine. It is good experience to take care of it yourself.

But a number of cases in adulthood, it is precisely the adult, mature thing to get an advocate. And it can also be the smooth and skillful thing as well.

And I'd say that when it's the teacher themselves who is the problem, it's precisely such a time.

This seems like quite unnatural and uncalled-for behavior. But lots of aspies (including myself) were/are scorned for correcting others.

(i was gonna quote people, but then almost everyone said something that i wanted to quote so i decided to just post a normal reply)
I think the problem is that my social issues are big enough for me to always get misunderstood by others as annoying others (etc) but they are not big enough for someone to immediately recognize them. The reason i am asking in the first place is because i had a similar situation with a teacher last year and it ended with my mother being called many times and some meetings at the school. (i also had similar problems the year before that). But i would like to avoid situations like this (not because i care what they think about me, just because it would make my life much easier)

Thanks for all the replys, ill talk to my mother when she gets home about it. And ill keep in mind the tips that people shared.

You made a possibly erroneous assumption. That she doesn't know why the second person is absent. If she does then in her mind the second person is not missing, as you assume. This could explain her irritation with you.

Try not to comment unless you have multiple sources of information.

When we correct others, what we are doing is making them wrong... and making ourselves right. When you blurt out, "You are WRONG." What is she to do? With you in the class does everything she say have to be literally correct... always?