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23 Aug 2015, 5:49 pm
ImAnAspie wrote:
skibum wrote:
I would not say that I was proud to be Aspie. As was previously mentioned, it's just who I am. It's who and what I have always been. People also say that I am very pretty. I am not proud of that. I am very grateful to be pretty but not proud of it. It's just who and what I am.
Sometimes I am ashamed or embarrassed because of my Aspie traits and in those cases moreso because of how others respond to my Aspie traits. But as was also mentioned above, sometimes I am proud of myself because now that I know that I am Aspie I have a more concrete understanding of why I have so many challenges and difficulties and the nature of those difficulties so I tend to give myself a break and even be proud of things that I might not have felt merited it in the past before I knew I was Aspie.
For example, I have had a very difficult and brutal couple of months which have made it very difficult for me to process much of anything. As a result I have had a very difficult time managing to eat. I know how to eat, I like eating, I know how to cook and when I am doing well I can even be pretty good at it. But when I am over processing it is sometimes nearly impossible for me to figure out how to eat. For the past couple of weeks I literally have had to call someone every day and have that person walk me through the steps of eating step by step and I am lucky to be able to get some food in at all even if it's just once in the day. So if I manage to eat that day I am very proud of myself for doing that.
So I would not say that I am proud to be Aspie but I do have moments when I am proud of something that I have been able to do either despite my Aspie challenges or because of being Aspie. Like my ability to learn my special interest and become good at it is an example of something that I am proud of because of an Aspie trait.
Sometimes I am ashamed or embarrassed because of my Aspie traits and in those cases moreso because of how others respond to my Aspie traits. But as was also mentioned above, sometimes I am proud of myself because now that I know that I am Aspie I have a more concrete understanding of why I have so many challenges and difficulties and the nature of those difficulties so I tend to give myself a break and even be proud of things that I might not have felt merited it in the past before I knew I was Aspie.
For example, I have had a very difficult and brutal couple of months which have made it very difficult for me to process much of anything. As a result I have had a very difficult time managing to eat. I know how to eat, I like eating, I know how to cook and when I am doing well I can even be pretty good at it. But when I am over processing it is sometimes nearly impossible for me to figure out how to eat. For the past couple of weeks I literally have had to call someone every day and have that person walk me through the steps of eating step by step and I am lucky to be able to get some food in at all even if it's just once in the day. So if I manage to eat that day I am very proud of myself for doing that.
So I would not say that I am proud to be Aspie but I do have moments when I am proud of something that I have been able to do either despite my Aspie challenges or because of being Aspie. Like my ability to learn my special interest and become good at it is an example of something that I am proud of because of an Aspie trait.
I go for days without eating. I know how to cook - very well. I just can't afford food right now. I'm even nicking toilet paper from public toilets because I can't afford TP.
My adversity is not due to my AS. I've never lived on my own before and I'm 48.
But being an Aspie gives me great benefits. Hyperfocus for one. Special Interests (Myna birds) for another.
Honesty, loyalty, others I can't explain, harmonic sounds, crap like that!
I wouldn't swap being an Aspie for anything in the world (even though it has cost me dearly in the past)
I understand how you feel about being Aspie. I think it's great that you feel that way. The things that my Aspieness gives me that are great, I really love, things like you mentioned. I can actually add several more to the list. I also would not wish to be any different than what I am. And you mentioned Myna birds. Very cool birds indeed. We had a lot at my high school. Our school principle used to call the students Myna birds because we would sit on the wall while waiting for the school buses to come and take us home and he said that when we sat on the wall in a row like that we looked just like a bunch of Myna birds!
I guess the difference with me is the actual proud part. I feel good about things that are positive about being Aspie, just not proud. I am grateful for all the wonderful Aspie things and I love the wonderful parts of being Aspie. I definitely struggle with the hard parts and I struggle immensely but as hard as those struggles are I would not wish to be anything else other than Aspie because the wonderful parts are so magnificently wonderful. I really enjoy those parts and they make me feel very special. But I guess I just don't have the proud feeling. So we differ like that. I am glad you feel proud though.
23 Aug 2015, 6:55 pm
babybird wrote:
I wouldn't say that I'm proud to be aspie in particular.
I would say however that I am quite proud of myself and the way that I have come through a lot of adversity in my life.
I would say however that I am quite proud of myself and the way that I have come through a lot of adversity in my life.
In a nutshell. Well said, BB.
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23 Aug 2015, 7:27 pm
skibum wrote:
ImAnAspie wrote:
skibum wrote:
I would not say that I was proud to be Aspie. As was previously mentioned, it's just who I am. It's who and what I have always been. People also say that I am very pretty. I am not proud of that. I am very grateful to be pretty but not proud of it. It's just who and what I am.
Sometimes I am ashamed or embarrassed because of my Aspie traits and in those cases moreso because of how others respond to my Aspie traits. But as was also mentioned above, sometimes I am proud of myself because now that I know that I am Aspie I have a more concrete understanding of why I have so many challenges and difficulties and the nature of those difficulties so I tend to give myself a break and even be proud of things that I might not have felt merited it in the past before I knew I was Aspie.
For example, I have had a very difficult and brutal couple of months which have made it very difficult for me to process much of anything. As a result I have had a very difficult time managing to eat. I know how to eat, I like eating, I know how to cook and when I am doing well I can even be pretty good at it. But when I am over processing it is sometimes nearly impossible for me to figure out how to eat. For the past couple of weeks I literally have had to call someone every day and have that person walk me through the steps of eating step by step and I am lucky to be able to get some food in at all even if it's just once in the day. So if I manage to eat that day I am very proud of myself for doing that.
So I would not say that I am proud to be Aspie but I do have moments when I am proud of something that I have been able to do either despite my Aspie challenges or because of being Aspie. Like my ability to learn my special interest and become good at it is an example of something that I am proud of because of an Aspie trait.
Sometimes I am ashamed or embarrassed because of my Aspie traits and in those cases moreso because of how others respond to my Aspie traits. But as was also mentioned above, sometimes I am proud of myself because now that I know that I am Aspie I have a more concrete understanding of why I have so many challenges and difficulties and the nature of those difficulties so I tend to give myself a break and even be proud of things that I might not have felt merited it in the past before I knew I was Aspie.
For example, I have had a very difficult and brutal couple of months which have made it very difficult for me to process much of anything. As a result I have had a very difficult time managing to eat. I know how to eat, I like eating, I know how to cook and when I am doing well I can even be pretty good at it. But when I am over processing it is sometimes nearly impossible for me to figure out how to eat. For the past couple of weeks I literally have had to call someone every day and have that person walk me through the steps of eating step by step and I am lucky to be able to get some food in at all even if it's just once in the day. So if I manage to eat that day I am very proud of myself for doing that.
So I would not say that I am proud to be Aspie but I do have moments when I am proud of something that I have been able to do either despite my Aspie challenges or because of being Aspie. Like my ability to learn my special interest and become good at it is an example of something that I am proud of because of an Aspie trait.
I go for days without eating. I know how to cook - very well. I just can't afford food right now. I'm even nicking toilet paper from public toilets because I can't afford TP.
My adversity is not due to my AS. I've never lived on my own before and I'm 48.
But being an Aspie gives me great benefits. Hyperfocus for one. Special Interests (Myna birds) for another.
Honesty, loyalty, others I can't explain, harmonic sounds, crap like that!
I wouldn't swap being an Aspie for anything in the world (even though it has cost me dearly in the past)
I understand how you feel about being Aspie. I think it's great that you feel that way. The things that my Aspieness gives me that are great, I really love, things like you mentioned. I can actually add several more to the list. I also would not wish to be any different than what I am. And you mentioned Myna birds. Very cool birds indeed. We had a lot at my high school. Our school principle used to call the students Myna birds because we would sit on the wall while waiting for the school buses to come and take us home and he said that when we sat on the wall in a row like that we looked just like a bunch of Myna birds!
I guess the difference with me is the actual proud part. I feel good about things that are positive about being Aspie, just not proud. I am grateful for all the wonderful Aspie things and I love the wonderful parts of being Aspie. I definitely struggle with the hard parts and I struggle immensely but as hard as those struggles are I would not wish to be anything else other than Aspie because the wonderful parts are so magnificently wonderful. I really enjoy those parts and they make me feel very special. But I guess I just don't have the proud feeling. So we differ like that. I am glad you feel proud though.
I never used to feel proud. In fact, when I was first diagnosed, I was quite upset to find out I was autistic but once I read about it (in fact, it became a Special Interest to me), I realised that's what was going on all my life and it made sense.
I used to just think I was smart and had a massive ability to program but I never knew it was due to my Asperger's.
There are soooo many things in my life that got explained when I found out I had Autism.
It took a while (years actually) to accept it but now I'm not only accepting of the fact. I'm pleased of it because the benefits are massive and the deficits, although bad, I've learned to live with.
NO - I wouldn't change for anything!
23 Aug 2015, 7:34 pm
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