What happens when somebody commits suicide...

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A well liked athletic coach at a local university killed himself a month ago. The Sacramento Bee put up the following story on how his family is coping:

http://www.sacbee.com/news/local/article35053485.html

He apparently killed himself because his girlfriend dumped him. I will never understand the "I can't live without you!" mindset of some NT young males, up to the point where they kill themselves over a girl. There are plenty of fish in the sea, especially if you're a young, muscular, healthy, NT male. But you can't get your life back. Aspies tend to have a lot more problems, but the aftermath of a successful suicide is difficult to predict.

As far as what happens to the actual person committing suicide, It depends on what religion you believe in.

As far as the people who know this person well.....the person's suicide will invariably have a great impact all around.

This is a post from a depression forum that helped me answer that question.

The post is so touch Noca..almost make me crying inside.

Yeah, that whole nonsense about all the pain you will cause others as a reason not to kill yourself...what a load of crap! Look, sometimes you just reach the point where you can't take any more, and living is just unbearable. Most people struggle for a long time before they give up. Nobody want to hurt anyone, but do you really think that the temporary pain inflicted on those left behind is really going to be a reason to keep on feeling like s**t day after day?

You know, I'm really getting tired of this stupid censoring of words, here. You can stick an asterisk in it, but everyone knows it's still s**t, f**k, c**t, or whatever? What stupidity!

People sometimes seem to be angry at another's perceived weakness when they commit suicide. And I think there is more than anger, almost a sense of being offended. Like suicide is bad manners because look out how great the world we made is. Suicide is viewed as rejection of society and of one's social network. I think this is where the anger comes from, in part.

Ann, what you describe is the selfish aspect of grief. It's understandable, of course, as we all have that side to us as humans. Oddly enough, though, I don't believe I ever really went through the anger phase of grief. I didn't judge my friend at all -- and I understood her actions because I suffer from depression, and have been to the precipice a number of times.

^ No, you haven't offended me.
The post is putting forward some views that are, in my opinion, offensive.

Same thing that happens when you die any other way, you die.
Tolkien put it much more eloquently though
"death is just another path, one we must all take"

I think suicide takes a hell of a lot of bravery. Someone can only take so much pain before it outweighs the suffering it will cause to the living.