Aspie girls, have any of you been sexually abused? (NSFW)

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20 Sep 2015, 2:26 am

I admit, the sexual abuse I've dealt with still bothers me to this day....

The first time I was sexually abused was by my biological father when I was 6. One night, we were on the couch in the living room watching Samurai Jack.... and he was licking my buttcrack. It causes me anxiety just thinking about it. :cry:

The second time was at a water park when I was 11. I had coincidentally met this one boy I had a crush on, and so he spent time with me. He was nice to me, kissed me, told me "I love you," then he groped me underwater. I was pissed after that happened and I kicked him in the crotch a few times for violating me.

The third time was when I was 18... at a church.... by a girl. She grabbed my breasts (and her friend's) out of the blue. I was afraid she would do worse than that. 8O

Have any of you had similar experiences like this?



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20 Sep 2015, 11:24 am

While I haven't been sexually abused my breast have been grabbed a few times. This was before I had breast reduction, but it was awkward and uncomfortable.

I'm sorry all this happened to you. Nobody deserves that.


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20 Sep 2015, 11:28 am

i was raped by my fiance (in the 80's).



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20 Sep 2015, 2:52 pm

Raises hand, a scumbag slipped a Rohypnol into my drink in the early noughties, the flashbacks lasted almost a decade, mostly occurring in the months before and after the anniversary.

Thanks for being brave enough to speak up about your experiences Goofy, :heart:.



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20 Sep 2015, 4:54 pm

Sort of.

When I was 10 (3 year before my first period) a 16 year old neighbor guy asked me if I want to see "what adults do in bed". I got curious (I heard my parents doing "it" almost every night behind a wall) so I agreed and followed him to some bushes. I don't remember what exactly happened (he was probably just touching me) but I remember our talk right after the experience. I told him I didn't like it and he said I am apparently too young for this but I will love it when I grow up.
I also remember I had a stomachache for a few days afterwards.

But I don't consider it an abuse because I agreed to it and I could say no at any time. I was not forced and I was a kid educated enough to have an idea what he is about to do so I was not mislead either. I even remember saying "But I have one condition - you won't lay on top of me". And he didn't, as far as I can remember.



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20 Sep 2015, 5:01 pm

Kiriae wrote:
Sort of.

When I was 10 (3,5 year before my first period) a 16 year old neighbor guy asked me if I want to see "what adults do in bed". I got curious (I heard my parents doing "it" almost every night behind a wall) so I agreed and followed him to some bushes. I don't remember what exactly happened (he was probably just touching me) but I remember our talk right after the experience. I told him I didn't like it and he said I am apparently too young for this but I will love it when I grow up.
I also remember I had a stomachache for a few days afterwards.

But I don't consider it an abuse because I agreed to it and I could say no at any time. I was not forced and I was a kid educated enough to have an idea what he is about to do so I was not mislead either. I even remember saying "But I have one condition - you won't lay on top of me". And he didn't, as far as I can remember.


It's not rape per se but it is definitely sexual abuse.

This person took advantage of you because of your young age which is sexual abuse. He may have suffered from pedophilia as well.


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21 Sep 2015, 1:26 am

Rudin wrote:
Kiriae wrote:
Sort of.

When I was 10 (3,5 year before my first period) a 16 year old neighbor guy asked me if I want to see "what adults do in bed". I got curious (I heard my parents doing "it" almost every night behind a wall) so I agreed and followed him to some bushes. I don't remember what exactly happened (he was probably just touching me) but I remember our talk right after the experience. I told him I didn't like it and he said I am apparently too young for this but I will love it when I grow up.
I also remember I had a stomachache for a few days afterwards.

But I don't consider it an abuse because I agreed to it and I could say no at any time. I was not forced and I was a kid educated enough to have an idea what he is about to do so I was not mislead either. I even remember saying "But I have one condition - you won't lay on top of me". And he didn't, as far as I can remember.


It's not rape per se but it is definitely sexual abuse.

This person took advantage of you because of your young age which is sexual abuse. He may have suffered from pedophilia as well.



Yeah, what he did was definitely not ok given how young you were. He should've known better.



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21 Sep 2015, 7:54 am

You are probably right.
Even given my "education" I was still a naive kid with underdeveloped body and mind. I had only vague idea of how kids are made and I don't think I had any clue about pregnancy prevention - he apparently did not have actual sex with me but I interpreted the stomachache afterwards as sign that "It might mean I am pregnant." anyway. I was worried for a few days, till the stomachache disappeared.

BTW.
This guy ended up being a delinquent. By the time I was 12 he was already in trouble with law for some stealing and fights and my parents told me to stay away from him. 2 years too late, :roll:. The fun part is my parents were telling me to stay away from this guys FATHER (which was in trouble with law) since I was very young kid but I never figured out I should also apply it to the SON.



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23 Sep 2015, 3:29 am

sexual abuse by father sounds so bad........goofy 8O

i was abused by my uncle. it happened for around a year i was 9-10 year old

I told my mom about the same but she said that uncle only touched he didnt sleep on me
so its not rape or abuse ....its ok

But he did nasty things with me......which was dark

He is still in touch with my mom though i have cut off from him

He is married and a year back his daughter got married.


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06 Nov 2015, 6:49 pm

My heart goes out to all of you. Sexually inappropriate stuff happened to me as a child and teen. I have a daughter and I constantly worry about her. Aspie girls and women are prone to abuse because we tend to be niave and not understand social situations. I feel especially bad for those of you that have been abused by your own biological fathers. Parents are supposed to love and protect you.



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11 Nov 2015, 5:39 pm

Yes, several times. The first I can remember happened in a public park when I was 11 years old. My sister (10 at the time) put a stop to that. I didn't recognize it as abuse until she explained why it was. My maternal grandfather had a go at me when I was 12, and again my sister put a stop to it - the 'adults' were off drinking beer and reminiscing or something, and my grandmother for some reason didn't feel a need to protect me from him, even though she knew he had raped my mother from ages 10-14. I was stopped and groped by an older child in the neighborhood when I was 10 or 11 as well. Didn't report it, just got away from him and learned to avoid him after that.

Other incidents in adulthood include being assaulted (but not raped) in the workplace, and once talking my way out of an attempted rape at knifepoint - the guy tried choking me and then he tried to scare me with the knife, but apparently I didn't behave as he expected and eventually he let me leave.

I've also been stalked by co-workers, neighbors and more recently by a guy who happened to buy gas near where my sister and I worked (he was stalking her too). Often, it starts out with what I see as a friendly, polite but disinterested interaction and goes downhill from there.

For many years, I wondered how it was that an allegedly "high IQ" person such as myself could continue to be so hopelessly clueless and naive with respect to predatory behaviour. Then I found Wrong Planet. It is so good to know that I'm not alone anymore.



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12 Nov 2015, 6:15 am

Yes, when I was a young child. It was my church's priest. It still bothers me too.



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12 Nov 2015, 8:13 pm

I am sorry to hear about your experience :( I hope someday you get passed it and those pigs get what they deserve.



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15 Nov 2015, 2:38 am

s**t, I hope you don't live with your biological father anymore :/ I hope he doesn't have anything to do with you anymore :/

when I was 7 I was molested by my religious school teacher after class when my mom was late picking me up.

when I was 14 I was raped by a friend's older brother. I thought he was kinda cute and was acting a little obvious about it earlier in the night, and so he basically convinced himself that i wanted it. he caught a plane back to California early that morning.

when I was 18 I was in an abusive relationship and was raped almost every day by a perverted sadistic sicko.

I feel like an idiot :(
(edited to delete some details that I decided i shouldn't include)



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15 Nov 2015, 8:11 am

To anyone looking for a safe healing space, there is this great website called Pandora's Project for sexual abuse survivors. They have resources and an online forum. There is even a survivors with disabilities forum. Here's the link: http://pandys.org/
My username is 8888 on there.



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17 Nov 2015, 3:40 pm

I'm so sorry to hear about such experiences, it does bother for sure the idea of remembering such abuse, but be sure that God's Justice apply on earth before we die..

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