Am I alone???

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I've read many Aspie books and they keep repeating on supportive parents mom/dad one or both of them. Outside of NT social norm holidays/Bdays mine seem to put me down at every chance. It's draining and defeating I'm emotionally "sick" IMO. Part of you "Build a wall mentally don't let them in???"

The other do the GOOD?

outweigh the BAD?

For every NT norm I get comment upon comment against my Aspie traits a part of who I am vs. other Aspies having support from both or atleast one parent.

I'm at my wits end and feel my heart breaking and rebuilding. depressed majorly don't know where to turn what to do.

I have a best friend met through WP we talk email EVEN SHE HAS SUPPORTIVE PARENTS AS DO TONS OF THE ASPIE BOOKS NOT SO IN MY CASE!

Can anyone relate?! Please give me advice on what direction to take? So confused and lost?

Build a wall "don't let them in?" Or stay hurt the rest of your life? If I "go down the dark path" IMO secluding myself into special interest will just get MORE negative remarks PLEASE HELP!! !!

No...don't build a wall around yourself.

Just try to improve yourself. But let them know that these sorts of nasty comments are not necessary. You are a person. You deserve to be treated like one.

But try to improve yourself, nevertheless (I know you're trying).

Both my parents, at times, are really not supportive of who I am. They constantly strive for me to improve my behavior.

If you're young then plan your escape as soon as possible.

If they are sabotaging your happiness and self-esteem, start referring to them by their first names, as this may help with emotional distancing. They're not your mum and dad, just some jerks you happen to live with.

For positive thinking, during times of anxiety, try anchoring your thoughts (in a safe harbour) by repeating music in your head from your favourite bands or catchphrases and theme tunes from TV shows that you watched from when you were younger.

LOL! Thanks Tempora! Sadly the calling them Dana & Tim wouldn't fly I have two little sisters and parents = NT usually first name to a parent is seen as "disrespect" in our home. I have two little sisters 13 & 15 so would hate for them to pick up they can use first name too to which they can't. I don't want THEM finishing there nearly adult 18yr. old final years hating there parents. IMO they should try to find the good focus on that and form there own opinions.

See them as just two jerks you live with good idea!

Not young I'm 29 been on Disability my whole life but enough is enough I'm hoping to find a job and save up get some form of housing etc. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

The "you live with two jerks angle vs. nice parents" is a GREAT IDEA!

My parents think any mental impairment or condition or failing to do as every one else does is just an excuse.

I just got out as soon as i was able, but that turned out to be worse, but I finally have somewhere safe to call home with love and support.

You know yourself. Don't let others dictate who you know you are. I knew I was autistic a year before My Father agreed to let me see a phychologist. I was upset at my Father a lot and he kept telling me I was not Autistic. It upset me sooo much. He is a social worker, yet I learned to accept that he is him and I am I. Don't let them drag you down. Love them and look for the love they have in you.

I don't have any advice but I can relate. My parents weren't there for me emotionally growing up. I have learned to look elsewhere for the love and support I need.