My bullies growing up to have successful lives.

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16 Nov 2015, 3:10 am

Just a small rant.

I went to three different school districts in my K-12 years, and almost all my classmates (although more especially the boys), disliked and harassed me for no reason in each one. There was nothing about me that stood out, nor did I never start anything with them first. For no reason, I was by far the most picked on kid in school.

I think it was a huge contributor to my anxiety disorder and depression. Those have made it difficult for me to make friends, be around crowds, or hold a steady job for more than a couple months. Not only that, my anxiety and depression were both responsible for my poor to mediocre grades (I barely passed High School), which followed me into my college years (I never graduated, and failed most of the courses I took). I graduated High School over a decade ago, but those problems still affect me today.

It makes me so angry to see the punks who did so much damage to my life grow up to get married, have kids, and have careers, while I'm still stuck at home jobless, no skills, no girlfriend, and barely any friends. You know how you always hear bullies grow up to have crappy lives? That's not always true. Mine are living much better ones that I am right now. There's no such thing as karma. :x



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16 Nov 2015, 5:41 am

It's entirely possible your bullies grew up, realized the error of their ways and became decent people. Just because you're a terror at 6 or 12 or 17 doesn't mean you won't turn out to be a civilized human being by the time you're 25 or 27 or 40.

You can get treated for anxiety + depression. You can call a therapist and try to make peace with what happened to you and accept that your tormentors live happy lives (big shocker: life ain't fair!). You can call a community college and register. There's no reason you can't complete your education or work towards getting a decent job.

Living well is the best revenge!



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16 Nov 2015, 9:21 am

I can relate all too well. One of my bullies actually met a girl who he married and completely straightened him out. He was later jumped at random and beaten up for no reason and I had to resist saying 'Karma's a $#@ isn't it?'. I admit I smiled a bit upon hearing that but this is not a typical scenario. Most of my bullies are highly successful in life with families, kids, homes, money etc and it pisses me off. I just wish they got to experience what the reformed bully did: what it's like to be outnumber, ganged up on and completely powerless.

What really angers me the most is that if I were to enact revenge, they probably wouldn't get it because they have probably long forgotten what happened (and don't feel any remorse anyway). I won't lie: if I hear one of my bullies was murdered, crippled or homeless, I would take great pleasure in it. Some people say I need to let it go but you never hear the parents of a murdered child get told "don't worry about finding the killer, just get over it".



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16 Nov 2015, 11:27 am

They'll get kicked in the you know where some day--through that thing called "karma"

Trust me! :D



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16 Nov 2015, 11:28 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
I can relate all too well. One of my bullies actually met a girl who he married and completely straightened him out. He was later jumped at random and beaten up for no reason and I had to resist saying 'Karma's a $#@ isn't it?'. I admit I smiled a bit upon hearing that but this is not a typical scenario. Most of my bullies are highly successful in life with families, kids, homes, money etc and it pisses me off. I just wish they got to experience what the reformed bully did: what it's like to be outnumber, ganged up on and completely powerless.

What really angers me the most is that if I were to enact revenge, they probably wouldn't get it because they have probably long forgotten what happened (and don't feel any remorse anyway). I won't lie: if I hear one of my bullies was murdered, crippled or homeless, I would take great pleasure in it. Some people say I need to let it go but you never hear the parents of a murdered child get told "don't worry about finding the killer, just get over it".


Wow. It takes a special person to nurse a petty grudge for decades.



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16 Nov 2015, 11:34 am

I know exactly how you feel.

However...

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They are completely oblivious to your bitterness. And if you go tell them, they'll laugh at you.

It's best to try not to think about it and try to make the best out of your existence. Don't compare yourself to others. Stop watching TV, because that keeps feeding you with that propaganda that you need career and big family to be a successful person.

Guard your eyes and ears. If you're on Facebook, delete your account. I did that, because I was tired of seeing everybody find a partner, have kids, family, etcetra while I'm all alone.

So I deleted it and now I don't have to be reminded about how horrible people can get everything going right for them, while those who have manners and try to treat others nicely get all the s**t thrown at them.

Some of the people who seem to get everything on a silver platter are some of the worst, most disgusting people you can imagine. They treat others with no respect, use and abuse people. And there seems to be no real justice.

Thinking about that can drive you crazy, so it's best to just remove from your life everything that can remind you of those people, and all the influences, like TV, that puts ideas in your mind that make you think you're not good enough.



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16 Nov 2015, 11:42 am

I don't believe in karma.
Some bullies get their crap together and become decent people, but others are destined to be a***holes for life.


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16 Nov 2015, 12:40 pm

Rajvilas wrote:
Wow. It takes a special person to nurse a petty grudge for decades.

I will assume you are serious and not trolling. The fact was this was not a case of a few kids teasing me at recess time. This was a case of a group of kids who went out of their way to deliberately make my life a living hell. They were fully aware of how evil their actions were and just did not care. What's worse, I was always treated like I deserved it even though I was a sweet, kind and caring child. What really makes me hold onto the "petty grudge" is that they have never apologized, never made amends, never admitted responsibility and are (outwardly) highly successful.

Like I said, try telling a grieving parent to stop nursing a 'petty grudge'. If you still have your facial features intact, let me know. I'm so sick of people invalidating my experiences as if it was something normal every kid goes through.



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16 Nov 2015, 1:06 pm

When people say ''bullies only bully you because they are insecure and worthless and they will get their comeuppances one day'' is usually a lie, just to make you feel better.

I bet a lot of people who bullies kids with disabilities in school grow up to be successful, rich, cherished, popular, no health issues, and live to a good age and just die peacefully in their sleep without no suffering or anything.


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16 Nov 2015, 7:33 pm

Stop giving in to the effin bullies, everybody!

They'll get theirs...one way or another.



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16 Nov 2015, 7:40 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Stop giving in to the effin bullies, everybody!

They'll get theirs...one way or another.


^^ this's



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16 Nov 2015, 7:46 pm

Sometimes karma just needs a little 'push' to make it happen. ;)


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16 Nov 2015, 7:48 pm

That's the spirit, Ms Proteus!

I like your style!



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16 Nov 2015, 7:49 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
That's the spirit, Ms Proteus!

I like your style!



Thank you! :D


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16 Nov 2015, 7:49 pm

I've outlived most of the people who bullied me. Their rebellious "Don't tell me what to do" attitudes seem to have driven them to undertaking risky behavior.

They were done in by drugs, alcohol, tobacco, violence, obesity, and other things that common sense (which ain't so common, it seems) should tell them not to do.


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16 Nov 2015, 8:15 pm

Just because it seems they have it all does not mean that something bad will not happen to them in the future. Life is filled with surprises, some awful ones. They may seem happy with their children and family, but what happens if they end up getting into a nasty divorce? You never know.

Try to focus on yourself. You need to improve your mentality and learn to make yourself happy.