einsteinmyhero wrote:
I know, weird sexuality. but, well, i have had these feelings since i started puberty. but now that i am accepting it, my family feels kind of queasy. and my grandpa said "yeah, i knew you were a fag". he didn't mean it in a hurtful way(you need to know him to understand him),but t still stung. And i have two crushes, one on an aspie girl,one on one of my guy best friends. Now here's where the asexual comes in: I don't EEEEVERRRRR want to have any sex. maybe kissing, but no sex. ever. I just need people to talk to.
Well, many 14 year olds aren't ready for sex, so this might change in the future.
But maybe it won't. I've heard of many people of all ages who feel that way.
Typically it's referred to as biromantic asexual. Romantic desire is the desire to form a pair-bond with someone, to have them as a partner and all that. It's possible to want to act like a couple in every way except having sex with your partner, and that's how romantic asexuals feel.
As for the bi bit, well, romantic asexuals can be attracted to men, women or both. It's also possible for non-asexuals to have a different romantic orientation than sexual one. (Although sometimes this is due to societal pressure rather than innate - romantic attraction is easier to manufacture than sexual attraction.)