How to find friends that are my low IQ-level?

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I have Asperger's and am OK with spelling & grammar, but I do horribly in IQ tests, and overall am not very smart.

Have noticed a peculiar pattern:

I try to communicate with people online (to make some friends), but they are almost always either A) Too smart for me; or B) Smart enough to be turned off by my limitations

The problem is this:

The people more in my "league" socially and IQ-wise, are usually not able to (or don't have the resources to) communicate with people online.

Have tried various friend finding sites.... and find that people have too many varied interests, whereas my interests are so limited that I end up thinking "Duh??" when they discuss any intellectual topic. (My memory is horrid, and I can't for the life of me sustain conversation)

I think you lack confidence in yourself. Low-IQ does not necessarily equate to low intelligence. It is well known that people with Asperger/autism do not score well on IQ tests for various reasons--one of which is lack of incentive.

You seem to have a decent amount of intelligence. Just expand your interests. Don't limit yourself based upon your supposed IQ.

I have found that if I keep things simple, then I can keep up. helps others also. you certainly "present well" in this forum, you seem plenty intelligent to me at least. we all have our limitations, though some are more clever at concealing theirs. I wouldn't worry about it if I was you and instead would concentrate on my strengths.

Thank you all for the encouragement....it is very much appreciated!

^^^you're welcome and btw, welcome to the club

I'm pretty smart, do well on IQ tests, and to me you don't seem stupid at all. You make perfect sense to me.

If you are having trouble understanding something or are confused in some way, let people know so that they can explain things in a different way.

I know that I have a tendency to be too technical sometimes, and I forget that everybody else doesn't necessarily have the same knowledge that I do about a particular subject. So if I confuse you, just tell me.

It's always upset me that you're expected to forgo technical language. It exists for a reason---it's much more efficient than using awkward circumlocutions all the time. Therefore, when I'm interested in something, I try to learn the technical terms in the process of learning about the subject. Otherwise, I'd be sabotaging my own learning.

I naïvely tend to expect others to behave the same way, but they don't, and they don't take kindly an attitude like mine, as it means you're a smartass to them.

This seems again the sempiternal focus of neurotypicals on status, hierarchy and popularity, to the detriment of whatever is being discussed. I'm more interested in satisfying my curiosity than in labelling people as smartasses. And this most likely means I'm a hopeless smartass.

Well, I can understand how you feel to an extent. But not everybody possesses the abilities that you do to learn those terms. And some people just don't like to learn, or they are unfamiliar with the subject.

I like to explain things in as much detail as possible and as logically as possible so that everyone can (hopefully) understand.

One benefit to speaking about things so that most people can understand is that maybe some of those people will become interested in the subject themselves. Then they will have that "spark" that motivates them to learn something new.

I find it easier to grasp a concept in the beginning without being overloaded with technical terms. Once I see the big picture, I can connect each concept with its proper term and remember it. Otherwise, I am confused.

Maybe you are just smarter than most people.

The best way to educate people is to make the subject of your teaching clear to the students.

If you don't make it clear to the students, they will not learn the material well, and will be turned off to learning in the future.

The last time I took an IQ test, my scores were so inconsistent that they couldn't put a number on it. Granted, my anxiety during the tests was quite crippling, which I think negatively influenced the results. But anyway, I know what it feels like to *not* be sharp, and it's something I struggle with all the time. People commend me for my linguistic skills, but I stink when it comes to anything that involves quick thinking, mathematics, or organizational skills. I often feel like a "half-retarded genius" (no offense to anyone) so to speak.

^IQ tests can be really inconsistent with anxiety, for sure. Nobody is good at everything, though, and linguistic skills are important.

One time, I KNEW what the term "pariah" meant--but my anxiety caused me not to be able to define it properly. I lost about 10 IQ points because of that!

I've tested all the way up from mentally ret*d to gifted, depending on how well I felt on test day.

My IQ subtests ranged from severely ret*d to gifted, but it showed more deficits than strengths.

somebody must know more about the phenomenon of highly variable IQ test results in the same person.

Change your question to "how do I find people who share the same interests?"

Anyone is smart when they are passionate and interested in the topic. If you lack the interest in the topic, then you're going to sound dumb and irrelevant. Find people like you, and they will see the brilliance in you. You will also feel the confidence and be happier. Those people are worth your time and your energy.