Parenting With ASD

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I'm a married mom of a four year old and a seven month old. I was diagnosed with ASD in December.

I find lots of stuff for parenting autistic children, but I'm having a hard time finding resources for autistic parents.

The little I have found is extremely discouraging - it also seems to be about dealing with CPS, which, thank God, we haven't had to deal with.

There's two articles and a book review on AWN.

.. and that's all I could find.

Depending on the nature of your problems, you might be able to find a little help from info made for parents with ADHD.

ETA: The author has a few more posts on her regular blog. Still not much.

I never find anything either; hardly anything about adults with autism let alone parents with autism. People assume we are either so debilitated that we live in institutions forever or are magically cured when we grow up and don't need resources for everyday life.

People tell me I shouldn't have children and they don't realize that's the worst thing you can tell someone. Just because I don't fit into the mainstream category of society does not give those who do the right to tell me what kind of parent I'll make. I like to use the example of Eminem-although he does not have autism-the man is by no means stable, but one thing I know for sure is he is a best father I can think of-probably one of the best parents actually.

There are many autistic people right here on this Site who are successful parents.

I have not been formally diagnosed with ASD, but I am about to begin the process. I am a 46 year old woman and I have 6 children. 2 possibly 3 sons with ASD. My youngest is 16 next month and my oldest is now 27 and a father. I spent 9 years of my childrens life being a single mother , which i somewhat prefered. I LOVE BEING A MUM. My children are everything to me and I have managed to raise my kids without outside help pretty much. Yeah they tell me I was a little unconventional and even a bit odd and eccentric at times, but we are all very close and get along well.
There were times raising them that I would wonder what on earth I was doing. I do think the most important thing I could say is communication with your kids is key . And being honest, so they realise if you mess something up you can step back and try again. Not sure if I missed the point of this post, but I hope it makes someone smile,

I'm a parent with ASD. When I was first diagnosed I became very worried about the effects of my autism on my son. Luckily the team who diagnosed me went through these concerns I had and told me I am doing fine with him whihc did help me not to worry too much. I still went to look for more info but I too found very little. The thing which bothers me most is that my son shows signs of ASD too but doesn't want a diagnosis and I am respecting his view but I worry that he struggles because of me, because I can't model good communication and social skills for him. I try to reduce the effect of my ASD-type functioning by making sure that he spends time with his dad and with his cousins and grandparents too. That way he experiences all sorts of social models. It's not easy though.

I have 4 children. 50/50 split on asd. I have asd recently diagnosis after a breakdown. I am lucky I have a keyworker now and my lot all do well. There is very little information around for parents, but around my way there is a autism project with groups where I can get help and support from others with it. Outside help is the only way I cope but plenty do it without help. There is a book coming out later this year aimed at parents on the spectrum,I will try and find the information I was sent and pay it later.

ASAN just linked this article. Not much substance but it's one more thing.

Unfortunately I don't have much to offer by way of resources, just wanted to chime in and say, I hear you. I'm a married mom of a two-year-old. I was diagnosed with ASD at age 33. There are a million resources out there for parents with children on the spectrum, but virtually nothing (that I've found) for parents who themselves are on the spectrum.

There is one chapter on parenting with ASD in Rudy Simone's Aspergirls...

The posters in this thread are probably the biggest support you'll find, unfortunately. I have a(young) family member who is close to nonverbal, and it has been difficult to attain service and support.

I'm also an ASD mom of two boys. Parenthood is wonderful, but also is very much a trial by fire.