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I got yelled at for talking to myself again! It's stupid, I'm not allowed to talk!! I have a problem with talking loudly, and it annoys people yet I don't stop doing it. I can't help it if I have a loud voice! But I still get yelled at! What can I do?!

I'd do that in school when I was working over a problem in class or something. If you can, try and get somewhere more private. You can't obviously do that every time, but it might help.

I talk to myself a lot but only when I'm on my own usually so I don't know what you can do really
Who's yelling at you?

My nanna. I can't go somewhere private though, as I need to use her computer.

Hmm.. I have no idea what you can do then.
That sucks though
I talk to myself a lot so I know what you mean.

Damn, that's just dumb. What about trying to whisper to yourself?

Talking to yourself is perfectly fine (except when you're in a place where it needs to be quiet, like a library). I talk to myself fairly often too, and I'm about three times your age. I need to do that on occasion to organize my thoughts, and reduce the chaos in my head. Sometimes (very rarely) people ask me why I talk to myself, and then I just joke about it and say "of course I'm talking to myself, otherwise nobody would understand what I'm saying! " Nobody's getting hurt when you do something that's considered "weird", so there's no reason for you or your parents to worry a lot about that.
Talking very loudly is a little bit of a different story. Most people (we Aspies too, especially us) really don't like very loud sounds. Maybe you can try out different degrees of loudness in your voice in your room, from whispering to talking quite loud, and find a volume that feels nice and is a bit less loud than you usually talk? It's not reasonable of your parents to just tell you to talk less loudly, when you can't help it. But it's a good idea to try and learn to put different degrees of volume in your voice.

I talk to myself, I talk to machines, and being older I get away with telling people, Would you mind! This is a private conversation!

I talk to computers when I work on them. I also talk to dogs. Me, machines, computers, dogs, get along fine. Humans are a bit of a problem. Little kids talk to toys and dolls, older talk to pets. But we cross some lines.

You are working things out, which is better than not working on them, but Nanna thinks you may be getting worse instead of better. You are right, but cut the old girl some slack. It is her computer, home, and having someone talking loudly and angry to themselves drives her up the wall.

Knowing you, you are defining your anger, which is not directed at her, but she feels it. We know it is SEGA, and they deserve worse, but the world thinks of themselves.

You do wish to be treated kindly, so do it to others. Nanna is the best you have, take care of her.

what inventor said ^ ...

Practice whispering to yourself instead. It can become second nature so you whisper instead talking loudly.

A lot of SAS talk in whispers all the time .... it becomes habit.

when i talk im really loud but when i talk to myself, it's usually loud which i hate cause i usually can't control the volume of my voice so one thing i some thimes do is write down what i'm going to say rather than speaking.!

My mother has often caught me talking to myself. I still get irritated when someone catches me at it, especially when I am out in public. I just cannot help it. It suppose it is a way of trying to sort things out but in a more external way.

Thanks for that guys.

Aaaand I got yelled at again...

Geez, only my mom's boyfriend is the only person that ever did that, my family never cared because everyone in it talks to themselves. (He's the opposite of AS, he's like the über NT)

I talk to my other self! I think it sounds more weird to put it that way though.

I just have to learn to keep quiet.