Is Autism like a fine wine...

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...It gets better with age.

If you have been diagnosed and know that you have an ASD do you feel it gets better as you grow older?

This is how I see it from a noob perspective. You become more aware of things that affect you, and you can put in measures to help/mitigate future similar scenarios.

Although I don't consider autism to be a disease, so I wouldn't necessarily say that the autism itself gets better, I would say that the environment around the person gets better, as well as the person's mindset. The world reacts negatively to behaviors that it sees as "abnormal," which is confusing for an autistic child. That child will eventually have to become a master actor in order to survive in a society that is hostile toward the autistic; he/she will have no other choice but to wear a "neurotypical mask" in order to blend in and be accepted. Aside from that, as people in general age (autistic or not) they develop a more mature mindset. The adults figure out how to work for themselves, and when the decision is made to reveal the autism, the person is much less likely to be rebuked and bullied. Teenagers can be so vile and intolerant, but at least half of them grow out of the "bash all things that are unpopular" mindset.

I think both of you are right. That's been my experience, too.

It has gotten better for me.

Has taken a lot of hard work, as I'm sure making fine wine takes a lot of work.

I have become more accepting of myself, but less acceptable to others.

Depends on what you mean "better".

For my husband 0-18 years wasn't that great.
19-50 were pretty good.
51-present have been really, really tough.

The tough part being Aspie burn out. It's harder for him to bounce back from social events. It's hard to fake good coversational skills. When he was younger, he didn't have a wife, kid and worrying about the future breathing down his neck. A future at 20 (while seems to go on forever) is very different than plannng a future at 56.

Because he has issues keeping up with a fast paced conversation, one doctor was fishing around for early dementia symptoms. That was also how is mother got her ASD diagnosis at 71. With her rigid behaviors, melt downs, social skills slipping, fine motor skills slipping, she was worked up for Parkinson Disease and Alzheimers.

What sucks is most doctors who work with an older population now, don't look for ASD people. I guess they figure you out grow it at 20. This will be different for people 0-30 now. Doors who work with younger people probably have an ASD patient. My husband has a very hard time at the doctor's office. I don't think they believe his diagnosis.

I guess it doesn't get better, it just gets different.

I think the day I get moni, and get a girlfriend will be the best day evur.

In my case it's getting progressively worse and some symptoms are becoming more apparent now that I am nearing adulthood. Weaknesses I was intially unaware of are appearing. The transition to adulthood is awkward, hopefully I gain some more experience along the way and eventually learn how to cope with it.

I think you have a strong mind.

I'm sure there will be hassles and irritations.

But I believe you will adjust.

The older I get, the more I withdraw from society in general. My tolerance for people and their double standards has lowered and I feel ok with that. I have my select group of friends who share the same view. Overall I'm doing fine, I have found some inner peace, but it has been a struggle.

Not necessarily. There are different demands at different ages and often when you end up with adult responsibilities it doesn't go too well. There is no way I could have all the adult responsibilities, to be honest I don't think it will ever happen. For others it works well though. There is lots of other issues with different pressures as you get older and it depends on the person on how they respond.

yeah, i'd say so. my social awareness at 26 is ten fold what it was when i was say, 20.

Mine seems to be more like Thunderbird wine.

I've gotten better socially, but not in regards to meltdowns.

it gets better as you age because other people grow up

Nope, it's still just a Chipotle burrito for me: it was ok at one point, but weeks later I'm still slouched over the toilet trying to expel it and I doubt I'll ever feel better.