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Ok not the Asylum but the Psychiatric ward.. I had a breakdown i just cant handle the stress of taking care of myself and all the responsibilities.

The psychiatrist said i was just lazy and spoiled.

Im exhausted...

I'm glad you're out and back home.

Sounds rough, it must have been challenging.

WB in any case : )

Why would a psychiatrist, of all people, say something like that?! (S)he sounds like a jerk! Anyway, I'm glad you're home - take care of yourself!

That sucks.

Welcome back.

Your shrink is an asshat.

OMG, psychiatrists are the most arrogant, useless boobs imaginable. That one sounds like a real twit.

Why the heck would your shrink say that?!

Your psychiatrist sounds like a prick. I'd tell him/her to go F him/herself. What an idiot.

I think a lot of powertrippers/bullies/narcissists are attracted to psychiatry, because of the scope for abusing power, the ability to powertrip and humiliate others, and get away with it. I think there is a certain kind of psychiatrist for whom that is a central theme and attraction, and that they are attracted to specialising in psychiatry as a place to hide their own mental problems "in plain sight", where anyone who dares to challenge them can be slapped down with disempowering labels and medicated. The power imbalance is incompatible with a truly healing environment of support, care, respect, concern, kindness and sincerity. I shudder when I think of how these creeps operate under the disguise of being "concerned patient-centred healers", they are typically sexist, arrogant, chauvinistic, patronising, insulting, platitudinous and cause rather than heal harmful stress. No doubt there are some good ones, though they are only a minority. I like Yigeren's suggestion very much.

Sure, some psychiatrist are really s**t, although judging all of them like that isnt fair. Ive had some really really bad ones and then some that were not so bad.

I politely disagree. Boobs are useful and fun.

This person is not useful. And I've noticed that if they are workers for the government (any government, they all suck) that usually is not helpful either as most are not there because of a 'calling.'
Sounds like you got the one that needs to be treated.

I believe asshat, mentioned above, is very correct.

Glad you're back and ok.

I'm glad to be back & OK! Welcome back to everyone else who's been near that revolving door forest.

Ok

Dear ZombieBridgeXD,

I read your courageous post from February 15th, "What should i do when i think about suicide?", and it's also courageous you went to a psychiatric ward.

The following is just my opinion, if it's ok to post it for you.

You're 18, which is very young, and you're dealing with some huge difficulties. I'm really sorry things are like this for you.

If you feel down, worthless, and like you're letting people down, and a bother to people, maybe try to look at the people that you're surrounded with. Maybe they don't understand you, are expecting too much, lack sympathy for your, have a narrow view of life, etc. And, maybe they're subjecting you to all of this without any care for who you are as a person, your differences, your strengths and weaknesses, your style, your likes and dislikes, etc. Maybe they have a need to show you, over and over, that you are failing to live up to what they expect of you. If they do this, they are abusive, in my opinion. They should realize they have a 18 year old girl/woman who is different (Aspergers), who is very unique, and that they should Stop treating you as they are. I've read of a family that was super wealthy, and had parents and extended family of extremely accomplished people. 3 of the 6 children (when in their 20's and 30's) of this family killed themselves, and one other of them would often write letters, over many years, expressing his desire to do so. The kids probably felt inferior, a burden, failures, etc. I'm sure you're situation is not exactly like this, but maybe your parents, classmates, teachers, etc., fail to recognize your uniqueness, differences, skills, strengths, and your difficulties, weaknesses, sensitivities, etc. If you can, hope for the future, when you might be able to find people who can appreciate you much more for who you are. And if you can, try to have the strength to hold out until you can structure your life in a way that is much better for you.

About your experience with the psychiatrist and hospital, it probably will take you some time, maybe some years, to be able to figure out how to better work with psychiatrists via communication. I mean, how to describe what you're going through in detail, without becoming exhausted, impatient, angry, etc. I'm not sure what happened with the psychiatrist that you worked with, but maybe you were just full of intense emotion, and couldn't describe what was happening in a calm way. BUT, for the psychiatrist to have told you you're lazy and spoiled, this is Abusive of him/her. You could do a complaint against that person with the hospital. Psychiatrists should always treat patients with dignity. Even if you're angry, sad, exhausted, ranting, yelling, etc., you should be treated with dignity. I noticed your mention of wanting to cut yourself. I can't remember if you do in fact cut yourself. I also saw your mention of whether you have Borderline Personality (BP). My own feeling is that people who use the method of cutting themselves to deal with problems have BP. While you might have it to a less degree, as you mentioned, you seem to still have it. You're probably an extremely sensitive person (typical of BP), and a wonderful person .... I had a great friend/girlfriend with BP and saw her struggle .... such an intense struggle. I hope you can find a psychiatrist/therapist and hospital setting (when needed) that will be more guiding for you.

I'm sorry that happened. I'm glad you're back.

So lemme guess, Dr Dumbass (that psychiatrist) doesn't understand autism and it's specific challenges whatsoever and as a result of their incompetence somehow concluded that you are just lazy and spoiled. You have every right in that situation to tell them to go f**k themselves. If you don't specifically see someone who specializes in autism, they won't understand the condition whatsoever. Here in my city, we have a new $550 million psychiatric hospital, and not a single staff member trained to deal with autistic adults. It doesn't make sense to me, but somehow, to some idiot in upper management, that makes sense to them even as there are 515,000 Canadians on the autism spectrum.