Do you get excited for your Birthday (as an adult?)

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I hear the Aspie trope of "not celebrating Birthdays" or wanting others to do Happy Birthday etc. etc. but for me OMG! I'm like a kid! Counting down the days until I celebrate sure the age SUCKS! Turning big 3-0 this year 30! OMG! But am excited there are just a few things I'm wanting not too excessive of a list. A new Nintendo game a textbook and some Amazon/Nintendo gift cards is all and Birthday money from relatives to be able to order a game for the holidays around the corner.

Excited for a chocolate cake with chocolate frosting and Crispy M&Ms on top OMG! it was SO GOOD LAST YEAR! Also my routine of Drumstick Edys ice cream! YUM!

Even to commemorate the 30th hopefully 30th balloons/napkins/cups. I still have napkins with 21st Birthday on them. and I have no friends so it wouldn't be OMG! huge! surprise maybe I get taken off somewhere while family decorates is a possibility. Otherwise I'm excited for yet another Birthday.

Planning accordingly game wise since March-Dec (Christmas) is awhile that "one game" and "gift cards" "textbook" need to last me awhile LOL!

Does any other adult Aspie get excited for there Birthday and wanting X gifts etc.?

I have memory problems so I sometimes forget what day it is, what day my birthday is as when it comes up, its pretty much like any other day and worst of all when I get asked my age, at first I hesitate and go one year below, but at this point it doesn't really matter, once you're over 21 its all the same.

I don't get excited for my birthday as a kid.

I wish I did. My folks (also likely on the spectrum) usually forgot mine starting from when I was around age 8 or 9 or so. But, now my spouse and I try to make our kids' birthdays fun and celebrate how they want to...but something interesting has happened. Our youngest doesn't want a party b/c it's just too stimulating. So we're trying to figure out low key, low stimulation ways of recognizing the event as he seems okay with that.

I always get excited for my birthday but not for the party or presents, I don't get much of that anyway.
I get excited for being another year older! I have since I was a kid and it doesn't matter how old I get.

Pretty much after my late teens I stopped really caring about birthdays to the point that sometimes I have to think and remember how old I am when asked. Not a subject that really held to much importance to me in recent years.

No I do not. It's a reminder of how old I am getting.

No.

It's nearly my birthday.

I don't get presents or anything like that but I always book a couple of days off work, so I do get a bit excited about that.

I will be turning 40 soon.
It is a big deal to me in terms of a milestone, but I still don't want a party or a big fuss made of it.
I'd like to have just a quiet get-together with people who care about me, mostly family, like any other birthday.
I have never liked being sung to. I have never liked receiving presents (and especially opening them in front of a large group of people.)
If someone wanted to get me a present, I would appreciate it and open it with them privately.
My daughter will make me a chocolate cake.
I don't even know when we will celebrate because there's so much going on that weekend, not the least of which is my new nephew will be born.

I've had my birthday forgotten before.
When I turned 16, not one of my friends in high school wished me a Happy Birthday.
That sucked.

The thing about birthdays is I always feel like inviting people to parties is a grab for attention (no offense meant to those who like parties - this is just my feeling about it.)
I'd rather be wished a Happy Birthday from the people who remember without a reminder.
That would be family and extremely close friends.

Yes and no. I do like to celebrate in some ways. It's a day just about me! Then it's a reminder of how old I am and how things are for me at this time compared to others who are the same age.

I didn't as a child - too much anxiety went with the expectation (just like Christmas)
As an adult I learned that birthdays are about pleasing other people's expectations so I just sort of gave up. as I didn't even get presents that I liked but what people thought I wanted. The only time I have enjoyed a birthday in the last 20 years was my 50th when I told everyone I would be sitting in a pub from 7PM and they could come if they wanted to. Loads did. It was fine.

I'm not as excited as I was when I was a kid, but yes, I still very much enjoy my birthday.

No, I don't get excited for my birthday. As it gets closer I feel anxiety and stress about the amount of social stuff I'm going to have to cope with. ALso I find it hard to lie so I worry about being given something I don't like because to fit with being socially kind I have to find a way to be positive about it without telling the whole truth. I view my birthday like any other generally enforced social event (e.g. Christmas, Easter). I get anxious and stressed and just long for normal days when nothing special is going on and I can just be myself.


All of these special days seem better to me if they are more low-key.

I hate my birthday. It's a day when I have to cope with twice the usual NT customs and traditions. I cringe when I think of it.