Violents thoughts towards the opposite sex

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Does anyone here ever get violent thoughts towards women? I think its because i've never really had a relationship with a woman and im 25, and its making me rather bitter. I have had sexual relations with girls but ive never found a girl i truly care about. I think some of it is because im good looking but awkward so that can put girls off. But genenrally, ive found that a lot of their interests or hobbies are dull, their music taste generally poor and it's rare to find a girl with a decent sense of humour nowadays. Sometimes i feel like from how ive been mistreated by people in the past, especially girls, that i'd like to cut and hurt them.

Just concentrate on yourself,

You could develop the social skills and position in society later, this will give you the confidence you need to get a girlfriend.

I suggest you seek professional help. Even if you have no intention of acting on these violent fantasies, it sounds like they are causing you distress, so you probably need therapy.

If you have fantasies and active thoughts of cutting and harming others, any others, you need to seek help. It may be harmless at this point, but without understanding, it could grow and manifest itself physically.

No.

This isn't normal.

The problem of seeking professional help in this case, is there's a risk they might lock you up in an institute. As someone that has spent a couple weeks in one, due to a suicide attempt a couple years ago, I can assure you 100% you don't want to be in one.

Perhaps if you have these violent fantasies you could play video games with violence in them. There are also many films with violence towards women that might help satisfy this fantasy as well e.g. slasher movies. I'm sure you could also find forums somewhere on the web where people role-play these kind of situations, if you have finances, you could even pay a woman to roleplay them by phone or Skype call. I enjoy this for my own fetishes.

Most importantly though, you shouldn't act on these fantasies in real life, someone will get hurt and you could spend a long time in jail or some mental institute.

why would they be concerned about safety if there were no plan or intent? it's not wise to discourage folks from getting help.

I don't think you are in a good place mentally. It's up to you if you seek therapy to talk it out, or do some hard thinking and sort yourself out.

I used to be bullied in school, my grandpa told me to smack the bully on the end of the nose and this would stop them. I followed his advice and battered one of my bullies, I was only 10, I followed this advice again when I was 11 and punched a girl in the nose who had been bullying me. You can imagine how that turned out, was not fun at all getting punished for defending myself and it really annoyed me that there were strange double standards, a bully is a bully.

Now I'm like everyone else, I just think about punching bullies in the face, sometimes I even manage to verbally defend myself.
What I'm trying to say is that it's ok to sometimes want revenge or to hurt someone who you believe has hurt you, but it's another thing altogether to actually act on those thoughts. I find it's best to take some quiet time and think about these feelings when they arise, otherwise they just sit there, and mutate, and then you starting hating people, when it's far better to display indifference.

I know, what a load of rambling bollocks.

Don't give in to the hatred and bitterness, everyone feels it, the challenge is to defeat it.
Oh and don't hurt any girls, that is just wrong.

Yeah.....

This topic is seriously inappropriate. Locked.

To the OP: get help.