Sexual orientation in spectrum women?

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For the last few months I have been thinking about how I am sexually orientated, and am wondering if anyone else has similar experiences, or just even how are you orientated?

One night stands, fwb, flings, do nothing for me physically, I have zero interest, not possible even if I put myself into that situation. Many years ago I decided to try it out, but my body does not respond.
I have to have an emotional connection with someone for it to be possible for me to physically feel sexual attraction, but once I do it is quite intense, and having been in long term relationships until recently I am not really equipped for this experience/it hasn't been an issue in my adult life, so I am figuring out how to live with this. Its like being all dressed up with nowhere to go, if you will.

Respectful contributions welcome.

I don't really experience sexual attraction and am wondering if I am asexual. I get obsessed with both males and females, but I don't know if this is romantic attraction or something different.

Amity, look up demisexual as this might describe you.

^Thanks, Arielsong yes I did recognise myself in the description when I first read about it. It gave a context for some past life experiences, and a way to describe them (even though it seems to be a very broad definition, within a broader category).

I figured out I was asexual when I was in my junior year of high school. But considering that I am interested in the opposite sex, I'm also heteromantic. It's always fun explaining this to other people. At least my parents are accepting of who I am.

At least there's no risk of pregnancy with being asexual.

^^ I'm quite certain that there are asexual parents on WP.
My understanding is that being asexual doesn't rule out biological urges, but it like many other ways of being, it is a spectrum and this generalisation will not be true of everyone.

Correct. I'm an asexual parent.

Asexual doesn't mean that you don't have sex, just that you don't experience sexual attraction. It's an orientation, not a choice. < This smile looks a bit creepy...

Teenage girls who are asexual are not probably not going to engage in risky sexual behaviors that would get them pregnant. That's what I mean.

They would wait until the right person comes along, then have a virtuous sort of relationship, which deemphasizes the sexual aspect.

Lesbian, low sex drive - probably a grey A.

I struggled with this for a while. I've learned to accept that I've had meaningful relationships with males and females without assigning a bi-sexual label to myself because it really does seem so petty. I prefer "sapiosexual" because I feel it explains it better. Maybe you could look that up? Might apply to you, I know a few Aspie females who identify as so.

I have had primary attractions to boys as well as intense attractions to certain girls. I choose to take my sexuality as it comes by individual attraction. I am not "straight", "gay" or "bisexual", rather, I am attracted to individuals at certain times.

I do not identify as "queer" because I do not feel that my attractions to women are prevalent enough. Essentially, I can almost guarantee to you that I will experience attraction to a man within ten years. A woman? Maybe, maybe not. I have in the past, but there's no reasonable certainty in the future. There is one girl I feel attraction towards currently, but I don't know if she is straight or not.

I've never found myself attracted to people, humans really. I do watch porn and am not a virgin. I identify as pansexual but I really have little to no sex drive. I have fallen in love with women though, men? Never. (I'm currently married to a man but I can't say that what I feel for him is what I feel for women). The things I find arousing are objects and things that would probably turn a few heads here if I revealed the information, but don't worry I'm not a pedo or zoophile if that's what you're thinking lol. Just odd.

I don't know what is common for spectrum women but I'm bisexual. Though sometimes I think I don't want to get married.