Feeling different to other aspies

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Does anybody else have this problem? That doesn't mean to say I don't get on with or enjoy spending time with my fellow aspies, it's just I'm so different in terms of the stuff I find difficult to others. For example, I don't have many social difficulties. I used to, and I do have a little bit of an emotional intelligence delay still, but I find socialising easy and enjoyable, infact. My interests tend not to be too obsessive, and if I think back, I went through very little in terms of bullying at school.

I DO stim alot, and have sensory difficulties, and I can't process instructions very well, and I have executive function issues. That seems to be the ways I've been affected the most, but it's so weird when you feel different to both aspies AND neurotypical types. I kinda feel like I'm in a weird no mans land between being NT, and on the spectrum. I've always been the "weird kid" but not weird enough to attract negative attention. Most people just think I'm really intelligent and a bit manic.

Anyone else relate?

I feel different to most Aspies due to the fact that most of them are logical thinkers and I'm a Heart Aspie.

I can relate. I can be very empathetic versus a lot of other aspies. I'm not putting anyone down if they have difficulty with that. I don't know many aspies except for online.

Feeling different from everybody, including other aspies, seems to be a very aspie trait. Something like this thread comes up over and over again here...

I feel very different to other aspies.

Perhaps as I suspect, you are closer to the NT cutoff line.

Me too. I too do not have any obsessive interests and like you, my social skills are okay. I always tell me that I am right in the middle of NT and aspie. It's a strange place to be.

Yes, for a number of reasons:
- Other aspies seem so cynical and negative.
- They have very different interests from me.
- Many Aspies I've met seem more outgoing and good at socializing than me.
- I don't struggle with sensory issues really. My issues are to do with emotional things which no one else seems to share.

I'm a Heart Kitty. Often I don't even feel like an Aspie, like I'm different from both Aspies and other humans.

How would any of us even know if we fit in with other aspies?

Do you hang with great crowds of other aspies?

I was never in a room with other AS spectrum folks until late in life when I started going to our towns local support group once in a while. Not sure if I fit in or not.

Another WP member said that he has organized many aspie groups, and said "we are appalled at each other's special interests" and basically that aspies alienate each other as much as we alienate NTs.

I identify a lot with my autistic friends in real life, we help each other with our problems and I can understand their intentions.

I don't understand a lot of people here on WP. I think it's because I'm younger, but like, the people who are married and having kids and have careers I just don't get that because that seems very difficult and overall not very nice to me.

I don't mean to offend anyone but I don't want children because my children might be autistic and my autistic friends feel the same. I just don't want my children to have to go through the same issues that I went through growing up and worst of all, I have a short explosive temper and do not like the sound of children's screams and cries. It's just not a good decision for me, personally.

I'm NOT an aspie who is:
-Anxious
-Depressed
-Awkward IRL
-W/ Any co-morbi
-Living in western or european setting
-With extremist like belief
-Clumsy or with any physical issues
-Curebie or anti-curebie
-In a place with Autism Speaks is known
-Logical enough. Or empathic enough
-Wise enough to help
-Any obsession in language or animals
-A fan of ANYthing
-Sensory avoidant
-Envious about NT fulfillments
-No acquaintances
-With any problems I cannot solve alone
-Submissive or stubborn
-Worried about the future
-Feels lonely

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If you've met an autistic person, then you've met one autistic person. We are all different in many ways.

I feel different from other aspies in a few ways.

-I rarely have meltdowns meltdowns, and even when I do they aren't bad.
-I have never really had problems with depression.
-I am very cool tempered and hard to get angry.
-Bullying was never a very big problem for me.

I don't personally know any, but I don't fit the stereotype.

I have a good sense of humor.
I'm not the slightest bit clumsy.
I understand facial expressions/tone of voice.
I have many different obsessions/interests instead of narrow ones.
I enjoy physical exercise.
I don't have a monotonous voice.
I understand idioms, similes, and metaphors.
I care about my appearance.
Etc...