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You haven't lived my life. You don't know s**t about me or the people who live in my area. What right to you have to attack me and assume I'm so horrible or they I must just be going after Blone haired cheerleader types . I'm not I've never gone after them I'm not stupid I went to highschool I know no way in hell would thin women date fat guy.
Other way around sure, seen tons of thin good looking guys date fat obese women. I'm not stupid. I hide any woman who's pretty or thin. Most of them are pretty clear on their profile they don't date poor or fat guys anyways,

You all wouldn't like it if people assumed bad things about you. You sure has hell don't like it when nts do about you being a aspie. So why do you do it to other aspies. Why not take them at their word like you want people to do for you. And actually try to help us.

This site should make people happier not depress them and drive them to suicidal thoughts.

I wouldn't wish what you people do to me and other low class guys on this site, on anyone.

I just wanted to come home and try to relate to some video games while I deal with the he fact 3 more women rejected me for being poor. And only women who like me on tinder are prostitutes or scam bots. But no.

Thanks for ruining my night and just about every day of my life,

At least Karfief guy is nice to me and tries to be positive

This use to be a place I felt safe and amongst friends, a safe harbor from the horrible world. People who understood me

Really should quit my job. It lowered my income, raised my rent and women still don't see it as a Job according to women here on wp.

I knew I shouldn't have taken it. But voc rehab was pressuring me to.

I like that in some way I help people. I get out somewhat of my house. I work hard and try my best to help people so they leave with what they needed and happy. But guess that's not good enough.

I can't work full time. There aren't any part time decent jobs and even then i dont know that women would consider part time s real job. I have no reason to exist, I'm just s burden to everyone, women, society my family. If I died everyone would be better off, I just don't know how to die

Sly you have made this a not safe place for me by attacking me personal views

Earlier you seemed convinced everybody's out to get you so I was afraid you'll get even more upset if I post here. I hope you're more calm now, I want to assure you first that I mean you no ill and I'm not criticising you in any way, I just noticed some details that might make things worse when you get upset and post here.

1. Sometimes you don't seem to pay attention to what people actually say, there's a word there that upsets you or you think you're being criticised or put down and you get angry and lash out. I understand, I've seen posts here that made e boil with rage and I just wanted to start screaming at the poster or something. What I do is walk away from the computer and do something else until I calm down. I think that continuing the conversation when you're so angry and upset will just make things worse.

2. When you're in a normal state, you write fine, but when you're worked up you skip words or just become incoherent (again, it happens to a lot of people when they're upset) and I, as a non-native speaker don't understand what you write in such occasions. This might genuinely lead to confusions, you know, people might really misunderstand what you mean. Just take a break and try to post when you're more calm.

3. This site really gets nasty and incredibly negative sometimes, it brings me down too if I spend too much time here. Take a break once in a while. Just do something you enjoy for a bit, watch a movie, play a game, just stay away for a day or two. It doesn't seem like much but it helps, the atmosphere here can be contagious. You get angry yourself and probably don't realise that you end up posting things that are extremely hurtful and unfair to people here, just as others have been hurtful and unfair to you...

And as a matter of personal opinion, I believe you should just take some time for yourself. Stay away from dating sites for a while, what you see and read there is distorting your view of yourself and others, and everything looks ugly. Spend more time with your family, join a gun club or a shooting range - take a few months off and try to concentrate on the things you enjoy and the people that care about you.

People here don't hate you and they're not out to get you, many of them try to be supportive, they post a lot in your Haven threads, they even write long posts sometimes trying to comfort you or make suggestions. Don't reject and dismiss them, while concentrating on the negative posters. I never posted in your threads to express sympathy because you sometimes react in such a hostile manner when people genuinely try to help.

So please don't bite my head off, all I've written here is in good faith.

If any random person's posts are consistently sexist, consistently misogynist, and consistently about paternalistic stereotypes of women, then it may be fair to assume that that random person may have a distorted perception of how women think and behave, at the very least.

I hope that no one on this website is like that.

Sly, who accused you of only going after blonde haired cheerleaders? Who accused you of being a misogynist when you're not one?

Typical of them to focus on a weak target while ignoring the men who actually perpetrate misogyny. As you said this is meant to be a place of support yet instead they turn it into a battleground to advance their ideology.

I deleted my last post because I found out the thread was in the Haven. Oops.

I really don't think anyone has picked out sly as a weak target, in fact many people have tried to help and support him.

In fact I still hope sly can get the help he really needs

i'm glad you enjoy your job, sly. my view of the purpose of life is to be happy and help others be happy. your job helps you do that. i would keep it until you find something better.

You are right. I made the mistake of writing that before I'd read all the backstory. I didn't yet know what was going on so that's why my post consistent entirely of questions, not statements.

I now understand your feeling of having been betrayed. You helped Sly and he lashed out at you. No wonder he's single if he does that on his dates.

True he's had a hard life but no one wants to hear pessimism. Imagine Sly on a first date and he spends it ranting about what a terrible life he's had. Even if every word is true, the girl doesn't want to hear that. It's not so much the events of his life that are hard to hear but how he reacted to them. With pessimism and defeatism. Sly's date wouldn't like that and I don't blame her one bit.

I should follow my own advice and stop ranting about how mad I am my poverty row school didn't provide me adequate guidance to get into university. I should try and stop this obsessive envy of uni students and remember that since I already have the job I want (gained by fluke) a degree for me would be nothing more than an expensive status symbol.

As for Sly, on his next date perhaps he should tell his story with a brighter tone. He could make it about how he had a hard life but with sweat and determination he overcame adversity and it made him a stronger person. Same story, different tone.

Honestly since Sly has a qualification to be a mechanic I don't understand why he doesn't use it. He's already more educated than I am so that should give him the advantage.

Sly, mechanics are very important to have. Please consider using your talents.

I totally, totally suck at mechanics!

And women like guys who are mechanically-inclined.

@Sly

Not trying to judge since I'm still pretty new to the site and boards. I do believe you have skeletons. Yes I read. I know I have problems with dating. I do see folks trying to help out but you go left field on this.


I'm at the point that I do feel you're attention seeking and wanting reactions from others on here. Also WP is not bad place from the look of things. I believe you chose to be this way with WP. Nothing personal.

Try being more positive and if you don't like something about yourself try to change it. Though I need to do this as well with my state of mind as well as being positive in real life.

Don't get angry at me please. This is what I've seen so far and I'm not trying to judge you or your character.