Why are aspies always told to "leave people alone"?

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I hate how neurotypicals are allowed to shove aspies around like this. They can just show up at every event you go to, talk to all of your friends, and expect you to simply "walk away and leave them alone".

Don't get me started about "staring". Neurotypicals can watch you intensely and analyze every body movement you make, but if they catch you looking in their general direction for just a couple seconds, you're "staring" at them. It doesn't help that these kinds of people like to sit in dead center of the room, and expect you to sit all by yourself with nothing to look at than a boring old wall.

Well I could "talk" to these NT folks but chances are its not going to work out very well, as far looking at people, I don't generally care. Then again most people don't really say anything unless you're really up under them. You could be looking anywhere at anything for all they know

Never noticed any of that personally.

Yeah, these individuals from my expierence are mostly "low class" people. Its a primitive dominance thing, saying "Watcha looking at?" and if you look down they feel superior. If you hold your look they are likely to get violent. Had my (un)fair share of punches because of that, often when i even wasnt really looking at them but at anything else around them.

Peace
TK

Yes.

I've never had this happen to me personally. The few NT friends I have had (met them before I was diagnosed) were very understanding. I was bullied though, but not told to leave people alone.

It's really common to for an aspie to feel attached to one person who accepts them. So we follow them around like a puppy dog and what the others are doing is telling you to give them some space.

As for the staring part it means that they have issues reading our body language as much as we struggle to read theirs.

It sounds like you've just come across a bunch of d*cks. Very few people are like this.

I always get the opposite: "Why are you so shy!? Get over here and talk to us!"

I have been thing about this lately. Sending the wrong social cues can cause real problem with some people. Try different facial expressions and moderate your eye contact.

I guess if you have a problem staring, then you have a problem staring. I've been called out on it before, and I was just like, WTF am I doing. If it's more than a few seconds it's too much.