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Help! I often feel extremely overwhelmed and unreasonaby anxious when I try to do good and help someone else. Im always afraid I will do something wrong or that it will backfire and I will be refected by the person I am trying to help feel better. Also fear of not having enough time gets in the way of offering to help out like I would like to. I visit my grandparents periodically and whenever I need to leave he wants me to stay longer but sometimes I just cant and I end up feeling terrible when I leave. Help! Does anyone else fel this way? Please any advice will be greatly appreciated
Thankyou everyone

well I love to try and help people and it kills me inside when I can't help

never be afraid to try and help sometimes someone just needs someone to talk to

The things I regret most in life, and that tear me up, are the times I didn`t help someone as much as I thought I could.

I would love to go to the animal shelters and help out but end up wanting to take all the animals home(we already have 4,which is 3 more then the lanlord allows... )It also kills me to see people in pain and not be able to help them...it actually hurts me.

I also tend to attract very needy people(they have radar)I try and help because I wished that I had some help when I was younger and really struggeling,but......you have to know your limits.People can be like sponges that just soak up your time,money and attention.I have to make sure I have enough left over to take care of myself or I will become a sponge myself and that doesnt help anyone....This has been a hard lesson for me.I do feel selfish when I say "NO" but I know I have to or I will be soaked dry and have nothing left to deal with my own life.