Do you make eye contact?

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I don't,
many people asked me this why and I think I finally figured out why.

When I look at someone I get axniety I can see their face like all their flaws their zits the color of their lips etc. and it keeps replaying in my head I remember every detail of their face which maybe is the reason why I advoid it.

I feel like I'm staring at them and don't know when to look away..


Anyway why do you make or don't make eye contact?

Yes, I always have.

No, because it's painful and overly intimate. If I ever find a significant other, then I might be able to do it with them.

No, I have never been able to make eye contact for more than a second or two. Not even just looking at the eyes but a persons face in general. It's hard to explain but I can't understand what a persons saying if I'm looking at them. I just "turn off" my eyesight or look at objects behind them. Same thing with watching YouTube videos and stuff, I cannot make eye contact.

I have always done it off and on. It would take me a while to look at someone and then I wouldn't look at another new person. It's like I have to get comfortable with you first before I can start looking at you without feeling uncomfortable. Plus I feel like I am staring at them and it's rude to stare. I have no problem doing it with family though but it took me about two years to do it with my husband.

No, it's kind of scary. I don't think anyone should be forced to make eye contact if it is uncomfortable.

I can give eye-contact half of the time. The other half of the time, it's too difficult for me to do so. It's too intimate and painful.

I think it's extremely rude and insensitive of NT's to automatically expect Eye-Contact from everybody since Eye-Contact is a level of Personal and Intimate-Activity. Some sources always tell you not to look directly at a dog's eyes unless you want the dog to attack you. Eye-Contact is extremely intrusive unless I am giving you permission to let you into my personal-space.

I do not make eye contact.
For me it feels unnatural and uncomfortable.

I do look at people's mouth when they are talking, because reading their lips helps me understand what they are saying. And I also have a teeth fixation.

My cousin sometimes puts his forehead against mine to force eye contact as a game cause he's that kinda guy haha.

On and off, figuring out the correct amount of time to hold the eye contact is truly confusing. Sometimes, it is too long and people get pissed. Other times, it is too short and I miss out on the facial responses.

The other day, I was experimenting with different expressions and eye contact as I was taking my daily walk. All of a sudden, there were these very strange reactions. Women and men gave me these huge smiles and started to act embarrassed. One lady looked like she was going to swoon.

I tried it on a happy dog and the poor thing nearly fell over from wagging its tail. The look remains a mystery to me and I am rather afraid to try it again. Some how, the look feels like it is socially inappropriate.

Moving my eyes, sort of checking in and checking out, seems to be the least intrusive and is good for street contact. More personal contact requires longer looks and better eye placement, slightly off the eyes towards the mouth.

Working on my facial expressions, eye contact and voice does seem to make life a bit easier. Singing a silly song to myself gets me in the right mood. I use other songs to project different emotions.

i do not make eye contact because i am not interested in looking at people's eyes.
i do not feel what many asperger people report, which is that they feel an uncomfortable intensity when they look at peoples eyes.

i do not care what they are looking at when i talk to them, and so i do not look to see.

Sometimes I make eye contact, it can be short or a stare.

Nope, always feel like they're judging me.

I don't; unless the recipient is emotionally close to me, it is a physically and emotionally painful experience, as if they are sticking needles in my eyes.

I have gotten quite good at faking it though, even my psycologist had to do a double-take after i told her about this, she didn't believe me at first.

I dont know how to feel about this. With unknown people its super hard. I can do it for a second or two, but it throws me out of focus, i forget what i have to say, have to concentrate alot to not forget the whole conversation topic, my vision starts blurring and its just too much me. When i know and trust a person for long enough it gets better. It never gets "comfortable" but it gets "bearable" for a short amount of time. I usually look for the mouth when conversating with people, that comes natural to me as it is the point where the sound comes from i try to focus on. But that only works if im comfortable with the situation, if im not im fixating an object near to them to keep focussed.

Peace
TK

I can relate to Tiankay's answer. Eye contact doesn't feel invasive or painful to me, but it makes it hard for me to focus on the conversation. It's like I can either listen and talk, or I can look and not absorb much at all. I usually watch people's mouths, which is good for me because it helps me understand what they're saying, and at least I'm looking at their face.