Why would anyone look at me like I'm a dangerous alien?

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Lacking social life in solitude, I've been taking time to re-evaluate my previous experiences with others. I could be minding my own business while this person starts giving me shady looks. They look at me even more crazy after looking at them back. I could call this harassment because of the way they stare at me regardless of whether I am paying them dust or not. We're African American so I doubt my race is connected to this. They don't with other African American individuals.

Background: We were polite to each other. They would greet me specifically everyday and then they were acting as if we should go 'seperate ways' though we have been all along. They were like 'I am so over you.' Why? We've been nothing but nice to each other. But they would 'compete' with person B when it comes down to interacting with me as if they both wanted something from me. But they would never fight over me. They would not ask me out either so I don't know what was going on. This person's looks disturbed me...like I should be harassed by someone crazy. They would laugh with person B when person B would say crazy things to me for no reason.

Around the time they began to be shady to me I came out as bisexual (like many of the other girls) and began to 'pass' as more masculine with my (very basic) low-cut I guess. But I could still pass as a beautiful straight girl. My size could be the reason since I was/am a 4'9 1/2 young adult and could pass as much younger but they were shorter as well (though over 5 feet) and proportionate like the others. Shallow as f***.

Personal life disclaimer: This person would always be ._. then smile and say hi. A few years later they would be ._. then yet in an threatening way.

Wrong Planet disclaimer: This is a 'Politics, Philosophy, and Religion' post because it analyzes social behavior and seeks to identify the possible and more likely theories behind them.

I'm sorry. That's the sort of (to me) highly complex social interaction that I could never make internal just-enough-to-get-by rules for. Maybe they are threatened by you coming out, but then again it has nothing to do with it and maybe it's just them expecting some social signal that everyone is just supposed to somehow magically know. I'm convinced that there is an entire language for NT's based on different stares - and I don't know word one. Some people are just like that, and would rather cause trouble than actually *talk* about whatever is wrong. I tend to minimize my interactions with them, because I *need* verbal, and I need to know I understand the people I socialize with.