NT and Asperger Bad Breakup

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Asperger isn't an excuse for being a jerk or emotionally abusive. Yes we can have frustrations, but there are other ways to deal with it.

This is why folk here don't always respond to well to these kind of posts. We are not going to know about your relationship other than what you tell us, and often there is not much advice we can give other than the obvious. Also many of us are tired of Asperger being used as an excuse for being a dick.

Advice: Don't look back.

I see no reason why you ever would want to even talk to this jerk again, but then if you provide more information I might change my mind.

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The person you are dealing with is NOT an aspergian. This is a sociopath but not a particularly smart one. It's easy to confuse the two. Sociopaths are drawn to us like magnets but only to use us. They don't have to try so hard to fool us being that it is so difficult for us to read social cues. We're easy prey for them and we provide temporary use to them until something more lucrative comes along. Dust yourself off and NEVER look back but be VERY aware of this type. I don't care what anybody says about this: A lot of times ADHD and Autism/aspergers are difficult to figure out amongst kids. Same for adults, Just like mild autism is called asperger's, ADHD is early sociopathy. I don't care who disagrees on this website. I'm now sure of this. Furthermore, if you want to salvage this , you're f'n crazy!! !! This person will kill you if they feel it necessary. You are a hosting a parasite. If only it was the 17th century, and I was Queen, I'd have your dirty boyfriend beheaded. Sorry, but this is how I feel. Another reason why such a person/animal would target us is because we usually don't have a big protective circuit of people around us. So, thus you have this. Think about it. GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THIS PERSON!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!
Do not look at his attempts to keep you away from others as if he were interested in you romantically. He wants to keep you single so he can pop in and out of your life to use you for various purposes. Another guy (a smart one anyway) would notice what he's up to really fast and bust his face. People who are hurting like you are right now, look hopefully for any kind of hint that their old boyfriend still cares - it prevents you from seeing clearly. It's also prevents the anxiety a person feels when you learn that your love was wasted on someone insincere. It's like making an expensive investment or purchase on something that doesn't exist. It's the kind of anxiety that you feel when you lose a piece of yourself. "DO NOT CAST YOUR PEARLS BEFORE SWINE". First of all, if a person loves you, this would not be happening. If the person has good intent but doesn't see a future with you, they are happy to let you go forward and meet other people. It is the sociopathic user who hurts you, dumps you etc.. and then gets in the way of your progress to find a new partner. THAT'S the difference!! Can you understand this? If you grew in a home where this went on all the time, it is harder to break free because you haven't learned what normality is. I want to help you SO VERY BADLY because I went through this entirely too long and wasted so much of my youth in doing so. I was way past 30 before I realized I deserved better. I don't want this to happen to you or anyone else on this website.
Another piece of advise that I had both my son and niece do after a breakup. Block them from contacting you so they can't manipulate you. My niece somehow got involved with a sociopath and my son got involved with a person who has untreated mental illness. Both situations had to come to an abrupt end.

Thank you,

I just think I was more in denial. I always told myself he had sociopath traits but I challenged the thought a lot, advising that this couldn't be happening to me. I enjoy sarcasm to a fault, I really thought he was being sarcastic. I so longed for him to advise that he was just kidding, that he was happy to have me by his side and that he was sorry for testing me. I always felt it was a test to see if I was worthy! I loss my self worth along the way completely. I have a lot of soul searching to do....

I agree with the others out here. I would cut your ties and run! Also, these are not "Aspie traits", though I hate to use that terminology, because I hate lumping everyone into one catagory. I just didn't know how else to say it. This jerk seems to have been taking you for a roller coaster ride! Run! As many stated, this guy sounds like a sociopath, and an abuser! Also, regardless, there's no excuse for anyone to be an abuser or an a**! Just saying!

Can a Mod come and delete this thread for me?

That man sounds very abusive and none of it sounded like Asperger's. Stay away from him. Don't have any contact with him.