I work days, she works nights

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Okay, I've been talking to a girl on a dating site for a while, and it seems like we're both getting along great. We haven't met in person, and I don't want to put the cart before the horse here, but I actually think it's a possibility we might date someday. The only problem is that we work opposite shifts. I work evenings (alternating between 10:30-7:30 and 12-9) and she works the night shift (usually 9pm-5am). I don't want to get into a relationship and then find out we have to break up because we never get to see each other. What do you think? Is it possible we could make that work?

Most couples only see each other about 3-5 hours a day even when they live together and work same hours!!

The woman I am dating has a completely different schedule than I do, we don't get too much time together during the work week but make up for it on the weekends. As long as both parties are adult about things and keep their priorities in check, things can work, no problem.

My husband and I worked opposite shifts for a while but we were living together. We only got to see each other a couple hours a day.

I know a couple like that who made it work for years--then he finally got a day job.

The problem with that is that my schedule changes every week. Some weeks I have Saturday off, but not Sunday, sometimes I have Sunday off but not Saturday, sometimes I work both, but it's extremely rare that I have both Saturday and Sunday off.

Hardly getting to see each other sounds ideal.
My partner and I hardly see each other and we've been together for a very long time.

Aspies tend to like more alone time when they are in relationships so spending less time together when you are in a relationship might not be as much of a problem. If you are not one of those Aspies(I'm the opposite myself) you can still find ways to make it work if you both really try. One of you might be able to change shifts if things become more serious. I would focus on trying to get to know her better & get a date with her before worrying about us not getting to spend enough time together.

Yeah, it didn't work out. Never mind. Sorry everybody!