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Everything is just really getting to me at the moment

We found out that grandad left no money for a funeral so my mu is stressing out to find money for it. The whole Brexit thing worries me aswell. Loss of funding will affect my future job and ability to study a PhD. Something I've dreamed about all my life. I can't think of a way out of it this time, I could study abroad but I can't just leave my boyfriend for 3 years. If he wasnt in education i know he would come with me.

People are getting to me at the moment. I'm usually understanding but I'm finding myself being a bit harsh. My boyfriends best friend is a hermit and is depressed (undiagnosed but its clear). He often comes to me because i had a serious bout of depression and i understand what he is going through. I am always patient but lately he has been frustrating me. I tell him he needs help and he just makes up excuses. I know its hard when you have depression but his constant self hate and complaining is really getting me down at the moment. I just want him to help himself

Then my boyfriends other friend is starting to drink heavily and making an a** of himself. Like getting up in his crushes face and being upset she doesn't want a relationship with him. My boyfriend and I have told him we are concerned about his drinking but he also comes up with excuses like 'its when i drink absinthe'. Its really worrying my boyfriend and frustrates me because he always ends up paralytic even when the intention is only a few.

To make things worse over the last week I have argued with my boyfriend about 4 times over stupid things. I keep feeling like i want something from him but i dont know what it is.

In conclusion life sucks

I'm sorry that life sucks for you. I wish there was a way to make it better.

I hope Brexit turns out not as bad as people think it is. I can understand you being anxious about getting funding for your PhD. You've worked hard for your Bachelor's, and you don't want all that hard work to be wasted.

But at least you have some perspective. At least you are able to sit back and be rational about your feelings.

That's a good sign.

I hope you and your boyfriend could have a makeup hug (and maybe something else? )

Try to focus in one problem at a time. You could help your mom first, maybe there are some cheaper options for the funeral or a relative willing to help. While you take a little distance from the friends of your boyfriend until you feel better. Then you can help your boyfriend with his friends problems.

Yup there are those times when life sucks. You have a lot to deal with right now. (((HUGS)))

Sorry for the late reply,
and for the loss of your grandad.
Please accept my condolences.

As for the Brexit,
I believe that as history goes forward,
the UK will be seen as offering a much-needed spark of hope to the world at this time,
leading the way back towards
independence ...
which is becoming all too rare in the world,
even in the USA
as we celebrate Independence Day this July 4th.

As for your friends,
they need to give you a break right now,
they need to treat you with some kindness.
Seems like you're always there for them.
Can they at least return the favor this once?

We are already an independent country. It had affected my future and frankly if independence stops my freedom to work and learn then It isn't independence at all

LOL...the UK in its full extent has been independent since 1701. England itself has been united and independent since King Alfred....about 1200 years.

Yes exactly, and we were fine for all those hundreds of years WITHOUT the EU and we will be fine again now.

I'm not so sure that the majority of English men and women would have regarded the country as 'independent' in 1066 after the victory of William the Conqueror.

Not so sure either that many people in cities like Newcastle and Liverpool feel much in common with, for example, Londoners these days.

The UK in its modern form dates from the union of the English and Scottish parliaments in 1707.

1707.....of course

Even after 1066, the English Monarchy didn't dissolve...and it was still called England. The Normans were oppressive, obviously, but did not dare refer to England as part
of a Greater Normandy. About 300 years later, Norman French lost its status, and became a foreign language again.

This is the haven section not the political section if you want to argue go there. I am free to feel the way I want in this section without people telling me not to feel that way!!

Sorry.

It will ruin my chances for jobs and education so don't tell me it will be fine.

With UK expats living in the EU losing as much as a quarter of their pensions, UK students attending uni in the EU about to lose their residency status, and employers in the EU already giving hiring and promotion preference to native EU citizens, I can see why you would feel that way.

A lot is being said in the media about how the brexit will adversely affect the global economy, immigration, and diplomatic relations; but little is being openly discussed when it comes to the individual crises the brexit is causing.

I hope that you can work things out.

I wasn't arguing politics

I understand your struggles.

But you've gotten five offers.

I did'nt mean you exactly.

Those are for master for which I've got a loan. It's my PhD that's up in the air. The funding for paid phds has been cut and I can't afford to self fund :'(. The government was going to do a loan for phds next year but now they are not going to because of potential recession