I think I might like this girl and don't know what to do

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So I'm 20, turning 21 next month. I have never had a girlfriend before. Grew up in a dysfunctional background which moved me around all the time, and missed the opportunity to start relationships with the girls that were clearly interested in me, and made advances.

There is this girl who has in some ways, gone out of her way to hang out with me outside this club i am a part of. I was wondering if this is an indicator of her interest toward me, but it could also just be her being nice, as i always look like i am confused and not included or alone in some way.

I'm not even sure if i like her back, but i do like her but at the same time, i have mixed feelings. don't know what to do, also don't want to risk rejection because risking that means probably risking even being a part of the club we're both volunteers at.

don't want that to go awry, as it's one of the few social things i have actually managed to maintain up until now.

so confused.

... and not a single person gave a s**t lol

If you connect with each other, you should ask her if she would like to participate in an activity outside of the club.

It would be swell if you were "sure."

If you like her at least somewhat, I would ask her out to a movie or something.

If you feel something physical, then you know you dig her.

From my experience having a guy work himself up to asking a female out is weird and the female can sometimes sense it. If she says yes then you've tortured yourself for nothing. If she says no, and is mean about it there's no point dwelling on it because why would you want to be involved with a nasty person? If she says no and is polite then respect her decision and say 'no problem, I thought you seemed interesting and wanted to get know you better,' or something like that. Leave it at that, you may pique her interest just by showing your interest. The whole point of asking someone out is to find out whether you like them or not, not to get married. Just make sure you smile a little bit and make appropriate eye contact (easier said than done, I know).

Why not just be friends and keep doing what you're doing? She's going out of her way to hang out with you so she obviously likes how you behave right now, just don't ignore her and be honest. She didn't have a problem with asking you to hangout, so if she does likes you romantically, she probably won't have a problem being the first to show it.

I still say be her friend. Give her time to decide if she likes you or not. Don't worry about dating her, instead, just try to get to know her and what she likes. Try to find similar interests and use your best manners around her.

Forget about it. It will never happen. There's always going to be some neurotypical guy that she's going to like better than an aspie.