Socializing with people

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I don't know why, but I don't like socializing alot anymore. I guess it have to do with Aspergers. I just rather spend more time with my cat.

I don't see anything wrong with that.

I haven't socialised for months. But then I have two friends who live 50 miles away. And they are busy people. And who wants to socialise with me in real life anyway, I cannot even carry on a conversation. I don't mind just seeing professionals and my parents. I don't think I would cope socialising in a cafe, and I hate cinemas. If anything, my sensory processing disorder makes it very difficult for me to hear people when I'm in town with them.

It never works out. There are no clear rules on success or failure, so I always figured it for failure. If I'm bound to lose a game every time I play, then I'd just as soon not.

I'm becoming less inclined to socialise as well. It's like a complicated dance that I just couldn't be bothered learning the steps for anymore. (And I usually end up stomping on someone's toes anyway ). I always feel out of my depth and don't find socialising a relaxing experience anyway.

I'd rather just read a good book....much less stress!

Yes, I don't enjoy socializing, and find it much too stressful. I do all right for short periods, when running errands, and not so good when spending time with relatives. I prefer my own company, and never have any problems keeping myself occupied. I like reading books, reading online articles, and watching online videos. Dealing directly with people overloads my input processing, and that stresses me out. It is also very tiring which is bad for someone with chronic fatigue caused by a number of different health issues. My situation is further complicated by a father who is an extrovert, and is convinced that introverts are all unhappy at being introverts, and would become happy if only they would become sociable extroverts. Being in social situations is what makes me unhappy. Being alone makes me feel better, less stressed, and closer to being happy than anything else does.

I hear about people in solitary confinement for long periods going nuts because of it. I don't see that happening to me in a similar situation. I have an active fantasy life, with many "universes." I also like to think about books I've read, shows I've watched, and music I like, so I would have plenty to occupy my mind. I have actually been almost totally alone for months at a time during the winter, and it was great. Unfortunately, some of my relatives come back north for the warm months, and now, some other relatives live in this area year round, and insist on visiting me at least once a week. AAAAARRRRRGGGGG!! !! ! Since I rent the place where I am living from some of my relatives, and at a family discount, and can't afford to rent from strangers, I am stuck with the situation. I am always terribly tired, and extremely stressed out after family visits.

I could quite happily never have to talk to someone face-to-face ever again! I agree with the person who wondered why prisoners in solitary confinement lose their minds -- I would thrive on that.

I'm being subjected to socializing I don't even choose at the moment. Without even trying to, I've collected a number of regular people who just talk to me when they see me and it's not making me happy. I like a LOT less contact than what's being thrust upon me lately and I'm actually experiencing detrimental effects.

I feel the same way - last person on earth bring it on

Haha -- have you seen that show Last Man on Earth? The first episode, before he finds out there are other people alive? I was envying that guy! I was planning out everything I get to do in peace and quiet if that were me!

I feel my lack of skill in this area is to my detriment as it's terribly apparent to employers that I cannot tolerate being around other people. My major sensory difficulty - sound - makes mingling even more challenging as I struggle to stay focused on what is being said, thereby heightening my anxiety.

It can be a big problem when it comes to a work situation, yes, unfortunately.

Yeah I've watched a few episodes and was a little disappointed after he found someone else. I was also making plans in my head about how much fun it would be and wondering if would I wash , use deodorant etc

Me too, I was disappointed when it turned out there was an entire bunch of people he had to deal with -- and it's even worse than the world in ordinary times, because this group were kind of stuck with each other!

If I had been that guy, I would have been driving off to another state to set up alone and pretend I never found the other survivors, hahah!

Ha ha me too, you wouldn't of seen me for dust.

I don't want to socialize with my family at parties either, it's toooooo much for me, but if I don't go, they will get mad.

Have they actually said they will get mad , or do you just think they will?