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EllaRose123
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26 Oct 2016, 10:43 pm

I get nervous just being around people- not even interacting with them, just being around them and walking around with them. Analyzing my feelings, I think I feel in the back of my mind (this is subconscious) they're judging me and watching me, as I'm constantly considering doing something wrong/making a slight mistake and pissing people off. In the past, people would constantly tell me "you look sad" which screwed with me. I get nervous about appearing nervous or upset, which I do feel.
Anybody else deal with this? I don't want to enter the workplace (I'm in college now) because I feel like just being in an office will exhaust me, for no reason other than just having to interact with other people.



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26 Oct 2016, 11:06 pm

Yes, being around people causes anxiety for a lot of people (including me). Even still, it's important to avoid isolating yourself because it makes the inevitable next time more difficult.

It helps a lot if you're among people who are low stress, accepting types. Anything where the work is super time-critical is probably to be avoided. It sounds like you're at a point where you can audit some places before signing up, so you can watch to see the pace and how they interact with each other.

Interacting with people at work is tiring, but I tend to eat lunch alone and rarely do anything social outside work which is enough to balance things out. It's good to "pace yourself", as they say.



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27 Oct 2016, 2:12 pm

I think I know the feeling. I am exhausted after any time I socialize. I work in a department store and get so tired that I immediately have to come home for a nap after my shift ends. I worry a lot about being judged too. I try not to think about other people's opinions about me, but it is hard. I constantly fear that I am being judged at work and that I'm saying and doing the wrong things and that I'm going to get fired.


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27 Oct 2016, 4:13 pm

I work nightshift now. The stress of dealing with people pushed me over the edge and I began to have meltdowns at work which was embarrassing.

Nightshift is much better.

I'd say, don't get a job where you have to deal with the public. They're super demanding and unreasonable which only adds to the anxiety and stress.


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