New Here. Feeling Down and Lonely.

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Hi to whomever reads this. I just found this site last night. I'm hoping it might be someplace to feel like I belong. I have yet to find anyplace like that. I'm happily married, have a decent relationship with my sister, and stay in touch with a friend or two from high school. That is the extent of my friendships. Even with any one of them, I feel lonely. I have constant anxiety over things like whether they're only interest in me is pity. I'm frustrated by constantly feeling misunderstood and underestimated. I imagine I can't be the only one. It's painful to suspect most of the world sees me as "ret*d." I don't use that word against anyone, I'm only saying that I think others think it of me. They used to just see me as "weird." As an adult, I've had the freedom to avoid social situations, which has been both a relief and the cause of not only my loneliness, but how others see me the way they do. I worry that everyone without Asperger's is cruel, stupid, oblivious, ignorant, selfish, rude, and it bothers me that I should feel like I'm the odd one out. Anyone like me out there? You don't happen to live nearby do you? We could commiserate. Or maybe try to be a friend to each other.

LOL.....cute screen name.

I live in NYC.

Do you have an extra-special special interest.

Welcome to WrongPlanet.

I second kraftie, welcome.

Yes, I feel like that a lot of times myself. I only keep in touch online with 1 or 2 friends from high school as well, but I only hear from them when they have the time to respond which isn't that often. Do know that we'll be here to support you.

And I am an old Georgia boy. Have been from the cradle.

Welcome to the site! I live in Midwest USA too

Welcome to the site! I'm in a similar social situation - I live with my long term partner, and feel disconnected to / haven't kept in touch with friends I made in college. I realize people see me as "weird," although they never usually tell me that directly. Lately, I've been trying to embrace my weirdness more, which is liberating. (Though I am in NYC... realize it's probably more difficult to stand out / be unusual in the midwest. My mom and sister live out there, and the people strike me as very boring / homogenous).

I hope this site helps you feel less lonely!

I am in the same situation minus the marriage part as of a few months back.

My loneliness is an an all time high these days. I converse with myself, sometimes for hours. It's kinda sad actually. I do it to use my vocal chords. Because I have gone days with barely speaking a word or two. Which kills be because I'm both socially anxious and love to talk so figure that one out...

Im in Central NJ.