Atgnat wrote:
So, now I'm 65 yo. I feel better for having gone through it and now I have something to say to the people (there have been many, some in my own family) who categorically state that I couldn't possibly have Autism. How and why they think that I can't imagine.
My advice to anyone thinking of getting looked at by a specialist: do it. even if you are not on the spectrum it will put you a step closer to figuring out what is really wrong and getting proper treatment.
Jim
Congratulations. You put in the time and energy and overcame doubters to get to this point, not something to be underestimated.
The last paragraph is very important and often overlooked. As a regular poster I have seen a lot of members who do not get a diagnosis or go into panic during the assesement process out fear of finding out they are not autistic. They fear after having put in a lot of time, effort and money and thinking they have finally found out who they are, they will have start from scratch. But most searches for the truth involve ruling out possibilities.
Adult disclosure of autism is all to often not believed because people and as you have painfully found out that includes professionals that have dated and stereotyped views of what autism is. That is because as late as 2012 only 1 to 2 percent of Autism funds go into research and supports for Adult Autism. Things like natural maturation, and years of exuasitive constant efforts to "pretend to be normal" are not taken into consideration. Therefore people think if you are not like Rain Man, need constant support, or you do a have a job or relationship etc you can not be autistic.
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Professionally Identified and joined WP August 26, 2013
DSM 5: Autism Spectrum Disorder, DSM IV: Aspergers Moderate Severity
“My autism is not a superpower. It also isn’t some kind of god-forsaken, endless fountain of suffering inflicted on my family. It’s just part of who I am as a person”. - Sara Luterman