I don't understand...

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the whole dating obsession with people around my age (I'm 14). It's that I see people my age going out together and they're always together and always talking on the phone and IMing and leaving myspace comments. And they're always hugging and holding hands and such. It seems like an uncomfertable sort of relationship and having your lives revolve around each other is really illogical.

People can do whatever makes them happy, I'm not really objecting to it, but how does one become so emotionally attached to someone, usually someone they don't really know?

Infatuation.

Feelings?
And if there aren't any feelings present, it's probably just to 'have a gf'.

Hormones.
They just want to get laid. Fourteen year olds are little perverts.

Or they're on Ecstasy.

Or they're just bored.

I find that most guys don't want to have sex while on ecstasy. At least not as much as normally.

I was actually just joking. But since you mention it you're right. It also causes erectile dysfunction in males and an inability to reach orgasm in both sexes. A friend of mine was one of the pioneer researchers with it back in the 80's before it was criminalized. However, like alcohol it may make you THINK you want to have sex.

I used to think this way when I was 14, and for some more years. Well, we cannot have everything, and I had a lot that people didn't. Anyway, I think now that it was very probably a great loss for me to be out of all this, I didn't learn so much at the right time, and most of the things, specially the social ones, are muh more difficult to learn out of the time.

You won't probably believe in me but you will live what are they all living. When I was 20 I knew nothing about all this, and payed a high cost by such ignorance, as I was very misguided.

Anyway you are still very young.

hahaha,wow.
That had me laughing for 3 minutes.
Comment of the year I think.

When on the romance level,then yes,infatuation.
On the friendship level?Because everyone else is doing it.

Oh and one more thing.

Dating when age 14 is quite cute,but at the same time I think teenagers these days are in too much of a hurry.
I was 14 when I met my first boyfriend.He was all into hugging and kissing and that sort of stuff.
I was more like "naaah",that was just too much for me at that time.I actually thought there was something wrong with him cause it made me a little queezy.Turns out it was just a bit too much all at once.
Being 28 now,I'll tell you Ive had quite some time to catch up after that and doing so when I was ready.

Oh yeah,he dumped me after 5 days,which is Ok...I practised my kissing techniques on someone else shortly after,who wasnt so pushy.

Good Luck.

Yeah. I know what you mean. I wasn't into dating at 14, but I was a very imaginitive teenager, so I had a lot of vivid sexual dreams. still do, but there under controllable, and I'm still a virgin, though if I can get lucky this summer, maybe dat will all change.

Yeah, but back to the whole 14 years old and dating.

My sister was 13 when she had her first boyfriend, 4 years before I had my first girlfriend, and 3 years before I was allowed to date. Of course he was the boy next door type of guy, though he didn't live next door, he lived a few doors down, but we all liked him........reprase that, my parents liked him, my adopted aunt and uncle liked him, I was just waiting for him to make a mistake that would give me a reason to pound him. They dated..............I'm not sure. they met in the summer, and I didn't pay attention, though I did pay attention after he dumped her, mainly because they couldn't spend time together. My sister...........gads, she acts my age sometimes, trying to come off older, and really does it well, she's been mistaken for a college age student many times, and about 3 years ago, when we were in new york, some Italian guy tried to flirt with her, in ITALIAN....ahem.

Anyhow. after they broke up, she was good, (this was all last summer that the break up occured mind you, she is now 15????) until end of July, beginning of August, when an aquantance of mine went after her. why? I'm not sure, but it may because I jokingly told him on mexico mission that my sister was single, but I didn't expect him to go after her, since he was 18 and she was 14. Anyhow, got pissed when I found out they were dating. I didn't approve, and nere did his ex, who he had recently dumped, and I found later on, he cheated on my sis with his ex. anyhow, in December, my sis and her first guy got back together.........this time the relationship lasted until March. then they broke up again. and I think they're offically done forever.....I HOPE.

Anyhow, my point that I'm trying to make is that the younger generation is trying to emulate us older folks, I mean, they're having sexual encounters much earlier then my generation did. most of my high school friends didn't get laid until sophmore year at least. and today, kids are getting into relationships earlier and having sex in middle school. They're taking things way too friggan fast and they need to slow down..... alot.

2 words: puppy love.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puppy_love

Dude, you're around 20 - there hasn't been time for another generation yet. Learn the language.

uhm...I'm generation X, she's generation Xy, I think that needs all the nuff said, nuff.

I had no interest whatsoever in males at 14. I never talked about boys, didn't know any boys, didn't want to know any boys.
I had my poetry and my films and my music, and that was enough for me.
I suppose, for many, it is the 'in thing'...to have a boyfriend and to be able to boast about their activities together.
It is a way to feel they are more adult...and, of course, a reaction to those raging hormones.