I know this is incredibly shallow, but...

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I'm a 26 year old male with Asperger's syndrome. I feel like I missed my youth because of Asperger's, the social anxiety that comes with it, and moving nearly 30 times in my my life (I'll say this about Idaho: f**k Idaho with a spiked, razor sharp dildo laced with salt and ghost pepper juice!), cutting me off from making lasting friendships and possible relationships. I had chances for girlfriends, but because of religious convictions (formerly Mormon), I turned them down (I'm mad that I wasted my time as a good Mormon boy). I went through high school sexually repressed and being unable to talk to cute girls I liked. I graduated in 2009, have worked at multiple Taco Bells due to constant moving.

In those Taco Bells, I've never been able to form any romantic relations with girls of my age at the time, and now I'm 26. It's too late at this point. The 18 yo girl I've had a crush on, that I thought was single at my current Taco Bell, already was pursuing another boy. I only learned this after asking her out on a date. The other girls all have boyfriends. My youth is just gone.

I just realized that I can't deal with the stress of a relationship, but I wish that I could experience what sex is like before I become to old for anyone to bother with. My only experience with sex is with porn (I've lost myself in the pleasures of porn to numb my loneliness), and there's no way porn equates to sex with a real girl. I don't know what else I can do other than going to Vegas and visiting a brothel. I'm still too goddamn shy and inexperienced otherwise.

26 isn't too late, that is the age I found my boyfriend and now a year later still doing good with him. I did have some experiences before that, first had sex when I was 19 and yeah it wasn't that great...plus it turned out that is all the guy was interested in me for ended with him just randomly not talking to me anymore. I've certainly been led on and disposed of more than once.

If you just want a sexual experience without a relationship, might as well go to the brothel...I myself think prostitution should be a legal and regulated job in all states. But 26 is certainly not too old to find a relationship either.

Also I sometimes get depressed by my youth being over, I feel I missed out on quite a bit between the ages of 17-25, but I can't go back in time so I try not to dwell on that...because it sucks and there is no way around it so I try to focus more on enjoying the rest of life.

I sort of figured that the brothel was my only real option for sex. I can barely take care of myself let alone another person (and I live with my parents). I had a Traumatic Brain Injury on Dec. 29, 2014 (long story) that means that for now, until my Voc Rehab pays for a new Driving Eval, I'll continue to have to be dependent on others' schedules. That means my chances of meeting with anyone outside of my circle is slim to none. I know that I can't change the past, and according to everyone I talk to, including counselors and parents, my future's looking good. But I haven't been able to look past the fact that I hate having no experience with making love. Sadly, girls like confidence and my huge lack of it makes me unattractive. Having sex, even with a prostitute, would definitely boost my confidence.

Sex is not meant to be a superb experience for the first time. But if that is what you really want I say go for it, as it may help you get the frustration you are currently feeling away. In addition it may help you get more comfortable with girls as in many incidents it has made people more adjusted to being around women.

I can feel your frustration very well; I was a virgin until nearly 30 years of age. Reason: complete social ineptitude. I had many strikes against me: no female relatives, no girls of my age in my street, in college and grad school a male-dominated subject in the hard sciences, and worst of all a segregated school system - not by race but by gender.

My first sexual experience was with prostitutes in Thailand. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's not just sex. You spend the whole night, cuddle up and talk about your families, your desires and frustrations in life etc. I would not suggest a hooker in America - legal or illegal. Travel to Asia if you can afford it and if this is acceptable to you.

Try to approach a plain looking and/or overweight girl. They are also marginalized by society and hurting, even though they desire attention and sex just as much as you do.

Also, try dating sites, personal ads, and specific singles functions/parties. My next few sexual experiences came from newspaper ads or dating services (the internet wasn't around then), before I mustered enough confidence to talk directly to a girl in a bar or cafe. I got good at it. In the end I picked them up in bookstores, checkout lines, even on the street. I had more than 100 intimate partners in my life - honestly. I am not trying to brag, just pointing out the possible. I don't do it anymore, since I am in my sixties and happily married now.

Good luck my friend, nothing bad lasts forever.

Having sex for the first time is a lot like going to see Star Wars The Force Awakens in Theatres for the first time. It's a highly anticipated day, you feel like you've waited forever for it. Some people will be like yeah this was awesome, can't wait to watch it again! Others will be like, this was a huge disappointment, but most people will be like it was okay, not as big of a deal as I thought it was going to be.