Is it okay to hit myself every once in a while?

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Hello, I am an Aspie new to this site. I kinda made an account just to ask this question, and I've also been wanting to make an account here for about a year now.

But anyway, I just got done having a meltdown and hitting the sides of my head like 2 or 3 times. I also hit my legs several times. It feels very relieving to get all of the frustration out of me. It's much better than throwing or breaking things, in my opinion. I've only recently discovered that hitting myself provides so much relief.

My question is, is it okay to do it every now and then? Like, not all the time to the point where I'm giving myself concussions, but in moderation. Or is that only reinforcing negative behavior?

I would say self harm is harmful, but glad you're aware of your actions. Have you considered a punching bag, it could be a more healthy way to release some stress.

NO. it is NEVER ok to hit yourself or disrespect yourself in any way.

I don't see anything wrong with that, as long as you keep it within reasonable limits and don't end up injuring yourself.

I also hit myself, but I look at it the same way as I do any other form of self-harm such as cutting (which I also used to do). Sure, it relieves a lot of tension, but it's not a healthy coping skill.

Instead of trying to justify unhealthy actions (let's be honest, if you have to ask such a question, I think you intrinsically know the answer is "no"), it's best to start working on finding effective and harmless coping skills. Try punching a pillow. Try jumping around or something else which exerts a lot of energy. It works for me whenever I want to hit myself.

No, it's not okay.

I recommend getting a punching bag or something of the like and hit that.

Hurting yourself is never okay. I agree with androbot about getting a punching bag or finding another, healthier way to relieve stress.

No, that has the potential to cause brain trauma. Every time you strike your head against the wall, you are causing trauma which could potentially lead to more serious issues like chronic traumatic encephalopathy.

You need to learn how to more effectively channel your meltdown. Others have mentioned a punching bag. Or you could learn to manage yourself to avoid the meltdown entirely.

Either way, no, hitting your head is never a good thing.

When you get angry it's okay to be angry but if you want to let the anger out you should go and do it like everyone else does, go to the gym, exercise, lift some weights in anger! Run until your legs hurt. You can even get really savage with it and do stuff like Thai kick boxing. Sitting around on your own frustrated is just gonna make you more frustrated, go in the outside and do some form of exercise, you'll feel better for tiring yourself out.

Also don't hit yourself randomly in front of NTs, they tend to cringe at it and then get annoyed cause you're doing that which will in turn possibly lose you some friends. Happened to a friend of mine.

I hit myself sometimes. I sometimes smash myself into walls.

It's not really okay....because, as stated above, it can cause brain trauma and forms of injury.

I do identify with this desire, though.

Perhaps a punching bag might be useful

Thank you all so much for your responses and input. Many have suggested a punching bag, so if I can avoid getting into a weird argument about it with my parents then I'll try to have that done for me. I would go to the gym or run around or something like that, but it usually happens in my bedroom in the house where I feel more trapped. If my parents catch me going outside they'll make a big deal out of it and think I'm going insane or something. But I will try to find other solutions, because you all have made me realize that it isn't good and it's disrespectful to myself. Thank you, love you all.

I think the OP should just take it out on the soles of his shoes, go for a long walk or run.