No friends at home when I visit from University; isolating.

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The title is self explanatory. I have ZERO friends at home, not one.

I have some at university so that's not a problem. It's just the fact that I don't have anyone to connect with or go out for a meal with when I come back here that gets me down.

I get depressed being couped up in my home all winter/summer break.

I love coming to see my family and being back home but this situation is isolating for me.

I do go places with my family (day trips, shopping) but I would like to go and hang out with someone someplace.

Obviously this is not going to happen at this stage.

I just feel a bit lost coming back to my home town and not knowing anyone or at least having someone that I could call. It's kinda weird getting used to this because it wasn't that long ago that I did have someone to hang out with.

Does anyone else have experience with this? How did you handle it may I ask?

I have experience with it. I look forward to visiting the place I grew up more and more as I get older. I am much more comfortable now visiting and going about there freely, with no compulsion to contact anyone. I like to 'meet up' with the places I used to like so much. I went through a time in the first few years of going away of finding it really quite sad. I compared my position to others' too much. So, I wouldn't say that I handled it in any way except that of letting time pass. The few people I ever associated with have grown different with the time I'm sure, too. I have nothing in common with them. To my knowledge most people from my school etc. are still actively social together. It's actually this that I find strange.
I occasionally like to wonder what those from my school days who have also disappeared are doing. Because surely there are some. I'll never know, probably. And that's quite comforting to me. Essentially, it's a state of things that you'll grow into, or that will change into something else as time passes.
I imagine it's a really quite common thing, only the nature of it means young people will generally keep quiet about it, or don't really have much of an audience to notice it.

Anyway, it'll make considerably less difference when there's no longer any such thing as the summer holidays .

I had a similar experience, although I did have one friend at church that I didn't get to see much. I didn't handle it very much, other than keeping in touch with a few folks via AOL Instant Messenger and by going out to fish during the summer or maybe take the mountain bike out for a ride. Other than that, I just didn't go home very much. There weren't many folks there with whom I wanted to interact.