Watching other people move on

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Does it hurt anybody else to watch family, friends and anybody else you know move on with their lives. I mean like... getting decent careers, relationship, children, marriage.... etc.... while you feel like your own life is at a complete stand still?

This happens to me quite a lot. It's not easy.

Yes. I thought I would be the little girl who never grew up. I have moved forward quite a lot in the last couple of years, but I'm nowhere near where I should be. I'm working on it, though.

This is pretty painful for me also. I've been sitting here a while trying to think of how I deal with it, but I don't really. I did pretty good until I had kids. I can't seem to ever get a safe space to go which seems to kind of put me in a cyclical mindset where I have a hard time getting past the essentials of daily living. Getting constantly interrupted working/obsessing on a hobby just gets me angry so I don't even like to start anymore.

My wife has lots friends who are self employed like I am and it is hard to watch them thrive and be able to do basic things required for success with ease.

I am working on getting as many customers as possible to switch to email or facebook messaging. Making phone calls is too much verbal communication for me sometimes and I get behind and lose work.

You are right, it hurts a lot.

I have a cousin my age and we live in the same house. It's difficult seeing him progress at a normal rate being able to drive, having a social life and so on, while I stay put not progressing at all. I might as well still be 5 years old.

YES, especially when the person is younger than me and we grew up together. We hung out almost every day for six years until I moved to go to high school. He's two years younger than me, but he hit all the milestones before I did, and I feel inferior to him now. He learned to drive at the normal age, he got a girlfriend, and he went straight from high school to a university, which are things I never did. I don't feel worthy to even talk to him anymore.

I don't drive either. (For others peoples sake, not my own)

I only got my driver's license for the first time at 48. I feel I have to be extra cautious on the road to avoid getting into an accident that could destroy everything I have built up and could possibly even cause me grievous injuries. I'm getting more paranoid because there are a lot of crazy drivers in my town. However, I wouldn't want my old life back for anything.

I have done quite a bit in the years since getting my license, but I haven't progressed in the area of relationships. I often wonder, because I am short and look significantly younger than my chronological age, if people still think of me as a little girl.

I am one of the more highly educated AS people on this board, but I lag far behind on life experience.

Yes. Since I was a child I have never understood the natural progression of life and in addition I have been afraid of it and tried to hide myself. I hate and fear change yet I want a better way of life, then it can resume stagnation.

It was hard for me in my 20's and 30's, coming to terms with failing at career, friendships, marriage, children - basically every facet of adult life - while other people were having such wonderful success in these areas.

I've learned to accept it by this point - and it helps that I was finally diagnosed at 40, and could stop blaming myself for failing so abysmally at everything I tried to do. There was a reason for my dysfunction, and I'm grateful to understand it now.

I am still at school, and I'm a bit sad to see all the other people in my grade, and even the year below, being so much more socially mature, have casual jobs etc. when I cannot be like that. A couple of hours in a situation where I need to guide/educate/assist/promote (e.g. exhibiting at a conference) I am completely exhausted and in shutdown. As most jobs for people my age are in retail, I don't see that I would be able to cope with a casual job.

Even if I am extra-advanced academically, it still makes me upset to see everybody else maturing whilst I remain quite static.

In elementary school, I had trouble tying my shoes, even though I was reading well above grade level. I got laughed at by classmates who practically couldn't read at all. My uneven profile of abilities and deficits continued throughout my life. I didn't get my driver's license until I was 48 years old.

I've watched others move on, move out, mess up, move back home, and the like and been made to feel this was "acceptable" because it was in the "normal" range of behavior. Being different was worse than being disrespectful, in some people's viewpoint.

Sometimes, yeah. I feel like I'm so behind others my age in some ways, even though it was years ago that high school friends started getting married, having kids, and "real adult life" seemed like it was beginning.

I had -- too many times, in various ways, along with other accomplishments and failures that many had committed.

And... To be honest, I like watching people move on through times. I don't feel envy or mourning that I had 'left behind' or 'missing things out' -- if anything, it's this melancholic pride that I get to witness things before my eyes.
I'm more content watching them than being a part of it.

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