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This year was my second High school reunion, I didn't bother to attend. Do you bother attending your reunions? If so how did it go?

I went to one once on a whim. For the most part, I'm not even aquaintances with most of those people anymore. It was a sort of dull night. Not terrible. But not much real connection. I think people do it out of some sense of nostalgia.

Was it awkward? Were the insufferable jerks still insufferable?

For the most part, such cliches did apply yes. The jocks and douchelords I hated were still about the same. Just with jobs and kids.

There were nearly 850 of us in our "Class of '68", and I think our class was too large to remember whether we ever even had any union. Lyndon Johnson was president, the Viet Nam war was going strong, both Dr. Martin Luther King and Bobby Kennedy were shot and killed, and the Democratic convention was held in Chicago complete with bloody demonstrations...

One of our own at graduation made a "marching to a different beat" kind of speech imagining we would/could "change the world", but it now seems more like we were all just stumbling around with everyone else. I had planned and had even paid to attend at ten years but ended up being unable to go, and I doubt I will attend our upcoming fiftieth. Our class website and Facebook page have virtually no activity and I do not know any of the people pictured at past reunions.

I went to my 10 year reunion on a whim. (I still live in town.)

I talked with a broader range of people than I did in high school.

The most drunk and seemingly unhappy with their lives people were typical the very popular kids from high school.

I learned that at the ages of 27-30, this group of people seemed to be happiest if they were surrounded by family in their lives. (Those with kids were happiest, wether or not they were also married.) This might have been a reflection of a "ticking biological clock" for people around that age.

I had 2 kids by this time (and I was always the youngest kid, so I was the one who was 27 at the reunion). There was one couple with 5 kids and one person with 4. The other people with kids seemed to only have one by this age (following many on Facebook shows a lot had a second kid after that age and 2 seems to be the norm).

I live in an area that could be considered "suburban" (although it is not a suburb of anything) and education was very highly prized. The zip code I grew up in (and still live in) was considered the zip code with the highest amount of people with PhD's per scale mile. I'm trying to show how much getting an education was prized where I grew up. ...which made it surprising to me to see that those who "did what they were told" and pursued high levels of education before starting families were significantly LESS happy than those who had families in their 20s. It was interesting for me to notice.

I didn't want to go to my 10 year reunion because I had nothing going on in my life. I'm disabled & on Social Security Disability & lived in a hard-core conservative area & went to a private Catholic school where most of the kids came from alittle bit of money. I never had many friends in school so I figured most would look down on me. I didn't go & I haven't regretted it. I just wanted to be done with school when I was in school & I was so glad to be done with school when I graduated high-school I never wanted to go back.

A couple years ago I went to my 20 year reunion which I think was a first for me. I don't normally do that. I was a bit self-conscious at first - most people there are well further advanced in families and careers and what not. In the end I was really concerned about nothing it was great just catching up with everyone that was there.

Two years ago, my NT sister got an invite from her alma mater {her HS graduation was in 2005} asking her to come to her 10 year reunion. She tore up the invitation and threw it in the garbage. Although she did have friends during her years in HS, she did not attend because she didn't see the need for it. She has never regretted her decision.

^ good for her.

in my mind, as i was walking down the hill (tradition) on graduation, 10 june 2015, i imagined how happy i would be to instantly move to székesfehérvár permanently after community college, never seeing these people again and never allowing myself to be hurt by them.

i...may have changed my attitude since those times becoming less angry and bitter over trivial things, realizing many others probably felt the same way, simply wanting to move on and put those four years behind them forever.

i still have plenty of time left before even my 5 year high school reunion. i can't say anything definite right now besides that there is a possibility i can go. but i may also be too busy drawing.

coming to terms with torturous public school years is one of the best things us aspies can do for ourselves.

I never have. No interest, don't need the judgement of others, didn't like most of my classmates, etc.

I have no desire to go to mine either. I didn't really have any friends in my school years, they were acquaintance level at best. Sounds like a huge waste of time to me.

I do not intend to go to my HS reunion when I get an invitation next year.

Anybody else not even invited to the class reunion? A few years ago I found out via FB that my class had a 20th reunion a few years earlier and I hadn't heard anything about it. Anyhoo, I wouldn't have went. It was just four years of forced, poor quality education with people who I either didn't know or didn't like. There were two people I wanted to catch up with and neither of them had went to the reunion. We got together and had dinner and they didn't care how pathetic I am. I still hang out with one of the two and she's one of the few people I know who never blinks at my stimming and rambling talks.

Doesn't sound like you missed much anyhow, I only know about mine because of classmates website. Sounds like you have a true friend, one with unconditional friendship.

There was only one reunion of my class that I know of. I graduated in 1993 but the "10 year" reunion was held in 2004 because several of the "popular girls" were arguing over who should organize it.

Anyway, I went and everybody was married and all the females were pregnant or had just had kids. I mainly went because even though I was treated badly I was also more of a jerk about it than I should have been. I told everybody about my autism and apologized if I had angered/saddened anybody. Several apologized for bullying me and said that looking back it was thuddingly obvious I had Aspergers and that they wished that "Asperger Syndrome" had existed because they might have tried to be a little more understanding.

The 15th anniversary passed without a reunion, it was 2008 and the financial collapse was in full swing. In 2009 I quit Classmates.com because this girl I knew from HS who hadn't been at the reunion started sending bullying-style messages to me and wouldn't stop.

I dunno if there was a 20 year in 2013, and I don't really care, I've moved on. In my closet there is an old beat up cedar chest that I bought at a thrift store in 2007. I have all my HS memorabilia in it. I call it The Coffin.