The Problem with Friendship

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So I am in a bit of a pickle.

I have very much isolated myself for several months from what used to be my friend circle.
There are several reasons for this. One of those is that I have gotten a bit "stuck in life", or that is how others would see it.
They are now all studying at college/university while I am at home, working a regular job etc.
I am aspiring to become a filmmaker. I have spent 2 years now meditating on existence and view myself more as someone who has built a cocoon for themselves. And that what I really have been doing is absorbing information and "mastering my own psychology".

But anyway. I was always sent to schools were I didn't fit. And because of that I always felt like I had to "make do" with what was available. And so I would make friends with people that I really didn't have much in common with.
I always tried to discus going to a better school with my mom, I talked about that more in a post I made about Emotional Neglect

So attending a better school were I would be surrounded with more intelligent/interesting people was not in it for me. As such I grew up with never having many "real friends". And even the circle I hung out with after highschool was a result of this.

Now don't get me wrong, I do consider those people friends. But at the same time I feel nowadays it's too draining for me to be around most of them.

The real issue is that sometimes I feel the need to have that social connection, but can't.
In highschool I used to post on Facebook. I wasn't really into posting things about my personal life so instead I would post science articles, movie and culture related stuff etc. Only to receive mean comments from my "friends".
As such I have not posted anything in years, but I often do feel the need to share my experiences with the world.

I would like to make new friends, but unfortunately my current position in life makes this very difficult.

But I hope that if I continue working towards my goals in a positive way, that this will also change.

You might be interested in My Little Pony. The latest generation is all about teaching social skills and friendship. And it's not super girly either. It has a lot of substance to it and I learned a lot from it.

Also, the first step is always the hardest. Getting out there and talking to people is how you make friends, but that can be daunting. Have you joined any clubs?

OP, MLP is the LAST place you want to learn social skills from. I don't care if people watch and enjoy the children's show but please do not think you can learn valuable social skills from MLP.

The show has some decent points, but the fandom, yeah, you probably don't want to look to them for learning social skills. xD

Have you ever seen the show? It rarely has a bad lesson. "Don't doubt yourself; you may surprise yourself if you try" "You are your harshest critic" "Everybody has a place in this world, but it might not always be what you expect" THese may seem basic, but even adults need reminders.

But you don't have to watch the show if you don't want to. I understand it's not for everyone. Just putting it out there. Which, now that I think of it, is an awful idea since the only people who like the show have issues even by WP standards.