Talking to guys and Building self confidence

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I am a seventeen year old girl dealing with Bipolar, Aspergers, and high anxiety. I'm super shy when I'm at school or in large social settings. I have a very hard time communicating with people I don't know. It takes me a little while to start opening up. In one of my classes I have a crush on this guy. I really would like to get to know him, but I'm not a very outgoing person at all. I would love to go up to him after class and start a conversation but I'm not confident enough. I would probably freeze up and sound very awkward and uncomfortable. but overall I just want to know how I can build my self confidence and feel good about myself so I have the courage to do something like that.

Have you tried just adding him on social media? Everyone seems to do that to each other these days. Just talk to him there first, nothing unusual then talk to him in person a day or two later

Well what have you got to lose?

Find something simple to talk about and I doubt many people will care too much about how you come across initially. Plenty of people are at first anxious when talking let alone boys.

I did. with this other guy I liked 3 years ago. He rejected me 3 times and I felt like a stalker. Now I'm afraid to do it to anyone else unless I know them.

Hi, listen. im 24 and male. You as a female have an advantage. Just go up and try and talk with him. Its easier with girls because its men like myself that need to go up and do the talking.

You never know this guy might like you and might be nervous talking to you like you are with him

Well things change over the years. But you know what you should do it!

The thing is your always going to feel anxious when initially talking to someone you like it is sort of inevitable. But you can reduce that by trying to talk and gaining some experience. Plus it gives you an opportunity to break the ice so that next time you will be more comfortable having a conversation.

Oh

Well, that was then. Plus this is a different guy.
I think you'll be fine!

Thanks for the encouragement!

I don't think you have much to lose approaching him and starting a conversation. I'm a guy and I've never been offended when a girl decides I'm worthy of her time and attention

...and awkward is often endearing.

Thank you so much. I think I'll go up to him sometime.