What characteristics would you like to have?

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I've always really wanted to be charming, warm, and one of those super nice people that others feel comfortable around. I guess I liked these things in people because I am so far from it.

What have you admired in others but maybe can't achieve yourself? What characteristics would you like to have?

I want to be a "laid-back" type person, an ambivert, have confidence, and someone who just doesn't give a crap about what people say about me...

I'd like to be able to admit it when I am in pain.

I'd like to have a male body to match the way that my brain works.

To be able to interact with others in an ordinary way instead of being so withdrawn and nonverbal. To be a lot more self sufficient.

To feel like I am actually a human being making their way striding tall on the same planet others stroll and sometimes strut upon... like I can be excited and okay about who I am and why I am and what I have walked out of, the diagnosis on top of several years of therapy figuring out the mire I had been stuck within all my life prior to mental musings has brought about a massive alteration in how I see myself but confidence and ability to control my sense of perspective eludes me.

I'd like to include a dollop of 'happy go lucky' into my slipstream but until I am further along down the road to building a life once more, I won't feel able to celebrate this distance I have put in. I would like to 'own' and be proud of how far I've come no matter how small the steps seem, sometimes I feel this strange feeling when reflecting and ruminating on my journey, most of the time I am always questioning my existence and wonder whether it means much, I have spent a lot of time ironing out creases and working on my flaws and correcting what I perceived as weaknesses and negative aspects of myself so I genuinely do recognize with some warm shock that I have gained on what I used to be able to offer/dip into before I embarked upon self discovery and analysis. Irrespective of this recognition of growth, confidence is still not an armour I have ever been able to feel I have earned, maybe as life improves I will feel like I have a viable footing. I have always had a scattered dust when it comes to feeling confident, creativity, expression and channeling I am great at conveying a confident gusto cause I don't have to dwell on it, I can't carry it well but I think I can get there with the weight of these recent years work pressing down

I wish I was smarter, and had a better memory and instinctively knew what to say to people while feeling comfortable saying it.

I want my walking into a room to be a pleasant experience for everybody already in it.

To be more intuitive in social matters, to be less nervous and to continue to build toward a full life.

I really wish I were smart and good with people and I wish I was beautiful.

I'd like not to give a **** about anything. The freedom would be unlimited.

I'd like not to be an as*hole magnet

I LOVE the responses to this question. It makes me love you guys more! And I have so much hope and faith, I think you can do all of these things, eventually.

There is one saying that sticks in my head sometimes, it's a Buddhist saying, as far as I know.

"You're already everything you've ever wanted to be."

I think it's true. It's in you. These qualities are waiting there to be released. When the time is right, and you are ready, let your true self show! Be brave, beautiful, happy, carefree.

I would like to be a witty, well-spoken and altruistic individual, who has an excellent memory and extensive knowledge on a wide range of subjects. Unfortunately I am the antithesis of the aforementioned characteristics, for I am self-centered, withdrawn, I stumble over my words and I possess a lack of knowledge on most things because of my learning difficulties (autism, possible dyslexia and I suspect ADD and APD, too).

If I could pick and choose characteristics... I'd want to appear charismatic and confident to others. Speaking clearly and concisely to people would be the jackpot. I notice when one types, you have more time to 'think' replies; it's a poor reflection of person to person communication. I get nervous, start talking quickly and jumble up my meanings often. Distance studying with uni means I have less group practice than on-campus students, but if I do eventually go ahead to take my masters in 2 years time, which I will do at a 'brick' uni as the term goes, I will need all the charisma I can muster.