Why emphazie capability?

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I was in a day program. Not in the beginning but much later in the program, I read lots of psychology and applied some of that stuff in group discussions. Later on, I stopped participating. In the meeting with the director and my case manager, I asked why they kept calling on me often and not others in the group. They said that I was capable. I didn't know what they meant by that or why they mention that I was capable or why the discussion about it. Thoughts greatly appreciated. Thanks.

It means they think you're high functioning.

I'll take a guess. They wanted me to participate but I empathize that I shouldn't be treated that way. I did leave the program due to that. I don't know. The letter states that I didn't follow their rules. I don't see nothing wrong being in group and hear what other people say.

I don't think I'm capable.

Okay, so in another thread I gave you some advice, and am now finding out more info here.
So did you quit the day program, or did they drop you because you broke rules or do not meet their requirements for their program?
Do they feel you have a disability, or do they believe you are capable and do not qualify for benefits?
If you don't think you're capable, it seems you'll need some way to prove it.

I do have a disability. That's how I got to the day program. According to the letter, I didn't follow their policies. I ask for specifics and details and examples in the letter before our last discussion. They didn't say anything. I don't know what that meant. I got their letter a week later and it specified that I didn't follow policy. I don't know if I met their requirements or not. The reason was too vague.

I don't know why they couldn't tell me exactly and gave examples. I was heart broken when I got discharged. I been there the first two years in the program and no problems. It was in the fourth year that was problems occured. I didn't know what was happening to me. Why suddenly the problem if I did ok in the first two years but later on it became a problem.

They had this look when I said "family of origin." I said that I read it in a book but didn't remember what it was. I did not know what that look was or meant. I don't remember what the question or what the book was about. I read psychology textbook, intro to psyc, probably many times, and I mentioned some of that stuff in later groups. This was about the mid 3rd year in the program.

They didn't think I was capable before. But when I mention family of origin and talk about psychology in groups, they treat me different. They didn't do that to the other people. I wanted to be treated like them. I need lots of help. Now they won't help me as much. I probably won't get many services as if someone not capable or like the other people in the group. I did ask their feedback on my progress in terms of goals but they wouldn't let me. I don't know why they don't mention it. I appear to be asking and nobody else in the program. At least I show I care about getting better and doing well, but it appears that others don't care in the program nor the staff. I don't get why. Sorry for the question. Maybe you guys can break this down. I know it is a lot but I don't know much. When I say break down, maybe in paragraphs or in question format.

If they wanted to help people like me, how come these programs don't tell people there are self help and self improvement books. How would I feel if there was this stuff but nobody told me? It may help others. Why not mention it?

I asked a counselor once in college, I asked her how to study. Her response was that my learning was my responsbility. I didn't know what she meant at that time. Isn't that a sign for help? If people know how to study or remember things better, shouldn't they tell people since they don't know like me? It appears that people can get through life like jobs, working, school, and etc. except I have problems.

How do they expect people improve their lives or get better? Getting help is hard. They make it hard. Not only mental health but overall in general.

A big difficulty with helping people on the spectrum is that many autistics need highly detailed and accurate instructions. Sort of like programming a computer in which you leave out a single statement and the whole thing falls apart. Same with autistic people, they get stuck if something is unclear or left out. But, "normal" people are pretty much incapable to providing such instructions to other people.

I'm confused ...

Being cynical, maybe the people in charge didn't like how much you were learning on your own?
In order to let you keep staying with the program, they wanted to keep you "dumbed down"
so they could keep getting government money to pay for you?
Also, they were afraid other people might get the idea that they could learn on their own, just like you did?

There are a lot of people out there who won't help you,
who earn their living by keeping others down,
or who just don't care enough to take the time and effort to help.
Really sad.

I still think it's good that you ask questions
and want to learn.

And I still hope everything works out well for you.