What is your biggest struggle with Aspergers or Autism?

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for me is the lack of everything

lack of friends, a girlfriend, memories etc.

Lack of friends/social life/doing anything.

I daydream of a busy social life, camping trips, cycling, running clubs, holidays etc. None of it happens though.

Hoping to walk Ben Nevis in 2 months time with my brother

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"passing"

For me it's my meltdowns and being unable to relax in social situations.

For me, it is my really bad Executive Functioning----taking so long to make decisions / figure-out things, taking so long to learn how to do something (and the BEST / most efficient / whatever way - I'm not too bad, if people don't care about how something is achieved, just as long as it IS; and, would just leave me alone and let me figure-out how to do stuff, on my own, after they've showed me), taking so long to write a post, really bad working memory, etc., etc., etc.

Coping with employment is my biggest struggle. At work you are expected to work under pressure (in most jobs), and I find that hard and very tiring. I know everybody feels tired after work but I do more than people my age because I just want to get home and nap.

The employment world is so challenging for me. I just want a job where I can enjoy what I do and get tasks done as I go along, without too much pressure. But unfortunately there aren't many jobs out there where everything is lenient and laid-back.

The worst thing is that there's not a moment without confusion.

Lack of friends and no social life.

Having no choice but to cohabitat and mingle with mainstream.

Communication, definitely. It frustrates me so much.

I feel very similarly about employment. I want something I am interested in and enjoy where I can use my skills without huge pressures. I want something that has novel elements as I like to generate ideas and solutions but I would still want to be aware of and incontrol of the variables as much as possible if that makes sense? I would also need the environment to be friendly and inclusive... I currently have found this is a work placement through university that I can continue with however I feel this sort of thing doesn't exist as paid employment I often feel like I'm being unreasonable and/or lazy and that people would think I should just 'do what everyone else has to do' but given previous experiences as well as the fact I know I can make a good contribution in the right environment, I really hope I can get settled with something I'm happy with.

For me its socializing. I just dont understand people and want to be alone.

I don't know what to say The biggest is. And now that half a dozen other neurological, endocrine, and musculoskeletal, troubles have been added to autism how does one tell which is causing what.
But ...
Now coming vividly in to memory is the day in 1995 when Dr Marcia Foster told me to leave my job at AT&T because whatever the thing is in me that processes any stress above an absolute minimum is gone, burned out, burned up, it just simply isn't there any more. Leave telecom and get a low stress job and only low stress jobs from here on out.

So Doc, tell me, how many low stress jobs will pay all my bills?

I tried to beat it and about a year later failed spectacularly.

Now my working days have ended.
Marriage has ended.
Most activities have ended.
Traveling has ended.

Isolation is a large issue.

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This

For me it's definitely employment. I work in an open-plan office with lots of noisy NT's in it. I function there solely thanks to Prozac, without it it's too stressful. I'm hoping to start to work from home (where I am generally happy).

Unemployment, being prone to unpredictable anxiety attacks, and not having a social circle outside of school.