NT wants HFA

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Hi,

First time poster long time lurker...

Ill get to the point.. I am a 31 year old NT female from Ontario Canada and I would like to chat with cute males with HFA "aspie" but I don't know where to find any? I've been on autism specific dating sites but it seems that not too many even use sites like that.... Where are all of you hiding?

Why am I looking for what I'm looking for? Well why not I've dated a few in the past and I find the aspie man more genuine and sincere in the long run. I don't care about flowers and constantly saying "I love you" I care about someone who truly cares and is a loyal friend and partner like I am and when you say something you mean it....not to mention those smarts you all seem to have... Yum. Yes it's different and difficult but what isn't? Communication and effort is key.

I am a nerd. Music nerd. Political nerd. Lover of dank memes and I'm certain my brain is wired differently and that I'm not "normal" at all. But I'm silly and fun... I think.

P. S I am a parent just going to throw that out there now


Happy Easter

Good for you.

Friends and I got into a discussion last night. The conclusion of which is that everyone agreed that people on the spectrum are in general, far more aware of themselves and far more loyal and dedicated to their partners - knowing how hard it is to fit in and attract / maintain a relationship. While not always being able to express it, people on the spectrum frequently go the distance to try.

And that is what I love about aspie men/ aspies in general. I really don't understand all of the NT women here who feel broken and alone with their HFA partners.... Actually I'm lying, I do.... When I had experienced my first nt/aspie relationship I had no idea what was going on... But with time and research I have a much better understanding and would like to try again... Or even just broaden my circle of friends here

Thanks for the reply

I don't feel broken. . . .. but often alone and confused. Getting better all the time tho nearly 2yrs on! I don't think though I would ever search out an Aspie partner . . .. . Individuals are individuals whatever the brain make up.

Why on Earth would I let myself know where I'm hiding? Then even I might find me! The more I think about it the more it seems I only really meet people who sneak around natural camouflage. That or I drink enough caffeine to jitter myself out of quantum phase.

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You're with an aspie partner and sometimes feel alone but it's getting better but would not seek out another aspie

Possibly that is why there is such a communication breakdown between the NTs and aspies is because you went back and forth on how you felt and that to an aspie can be very confusing...

I'm glad things are getting better though

An aspie fetischist? Fascinating.

I know fetish is probably the wrong word, strictly speaking. But I'm sure you know what I mean.

...and I'm fine with that.

Oh, please....Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me.

I'm pretty sure we've see more of that in other threads a while back. I appreciate the fresh air in this forum too. O hai mods...

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I would have to agree that fetish is the wrong word... This has nothing to do with just having a sexual release and then call it a day. But I understand what you meant. I just prefer the straight forward approach and ways of thinking and how aspies will go the extra mile. I see that one poster said start with New York.... Not sure that's something I can do as I live in Canada.... Are there any tips or places online or any information at all on where aspie men are likely to "hang out"?

I'm aware that all of this may sound odd but I'd really like to find a nice aspie guy

Any Aspie female admirers from Australia,feel free to hit my inbox.; )