Do you discolse your disibility on dating profiles?

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18 Apr 2017, 1:29 am

I've wondered how that has or hasn't worked for people. I have one mental condition, but choose not to disclose it publicly.



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18 Apr 2017, 4:33 am

Honesty is the best policy.

Akin to showing a fake face pic and you show up,completely different.

Who's buying the drinks,till you look what you look like?: p

Lay your cards on the table and be upfront from the beginning,there's no disappointment.


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18 Apr 2017, 5:43 am

I probably wouldn't. Unless you have 10/10 model looks you're just changing the chances of a woman contacting you from 1% to 0%.



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18 Apr 2017, 12:01 pm

Chichikov wrote:
I probably wouldn't. Unless you have 10/10 model looks you're just changing the chances of a woman contacting you from 1% to 0%.


I only tell them after I get to know them better. Plus I don't really care that I'm Autistic anyway.



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18 Apr 2017, 12:12 pm

Not publicly.



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18 Apr 2017, 12:55 pm

My boyfriend did, but I didn't. The only reason I messaged him was that he had aspie in his name otherwise I wouldn't of bothered....



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28 Apr 2017, 1:26 am

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28 Apr 2017, 2:04 am

Just don't. Every person I've told except one (of whom we have no romantic interest with each other) ghosted me afterwards.



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28 Apr 2017, 6:05 am

I did back when I had a profile on a dating site (which I stopped using pretty quickly). Had a whopping 2 ladies send a message my way, and even then, the chatting only lasted a week or two. Didn't get a chance to meet either of them in person either.


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28 Apr 2017, 6:19 am

I don't seriously pursue online dating but I've tried to make mention or allude to it, hard not to with my life.

I feel like I need to explain myself regardless, hard to feel any confidence this way



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28 Apr 2017, 8:39 pm

I would like to, but they might get the wrong idea of what autism means. It's also possible that someone that I know irl might see my profile and use it against me. Sometimes I tell them through messaging though.



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28 Apr 2017, 11:31 pm

I have physical disabilities that I mentioned on dating sites because I figured most women would quit responding 1ce I told them & they were things I would of had to bring up fast cuz it limited with with driving & finding a job. I never got one date from dating sites. I never mentioned my mental stuff like Aspergers because I figured they would have a very stereotyped opinion of it if they knew anything about it & would rule me out based on wrong assumptions.


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23 Aug 2019, 12:58 pm

Personally I don't think that this disease is not a problem, because it doesn't prevent, or, most likely, it mustn't prevent people from dating someone, because everyone deserves to be happy. For example, I registered on a dating site about which you can read asiacharm review, and there I mentioned about my disease, however, even in this situation I was texting with women and the fact that I'm sick didn't stopped them communicating with me. Seriously, there are so much lovely women from Asia, that I don't feel lonely anymore. By the way, it helps me get rid of depression, because these Asian women even write me the first :)



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23 Aug 2019, 1:07 pm

I don't have a dating profile......I dated well before the Internet, and got married in 1995, when the Internet was just beginning.....but I wouldn't disclose my disability on a dating profile.



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07 Sep 2019, 1:45 pm

If you're a man, don't tell any potential girlfriend about AS until you know each other very well.


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