Having a hard time coping

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I am so pissed off at the world right now. Who here agrees that "white lies" are some of the most damaging lies a person can tell someone just so the real harder truth can be ignored or brushed off. Such is the case with my family. They tell me white lies because often I tend to have a hard time telling what is the truth and what is not. Its very difficult for me to judge other peoples actions and motives so I believe I have to think and process things a lot more than most people before I react in any way to any situation or comment that comes from someone else.
I live at home yet. I feel and always felt batrayed by my mom I feel like she hates my Asperger's and is therefore ashamed of being out in public with me. We never do anything or go anywhere together. And any shopping trips or the like we have taken years back have always been rush rush rush. No communication.

You need to tell her that this bothers you, that its enough trouble dealing with aspergers and it doesnt help when your family acts this way. Make it clear how much it upsets you

When i realized people tell lies most of the time, i begun not caring about what they say, since i know i'll never figure out if it's true or false, i just ignore it. Talking to people is an exchange of emotions, the truth is not important. Sometimes they will tell a lie just to make you laugh, and you are not supposed to care if it's true or not, you are just supposed to laugh at it.

I dont think your mother behaves like that on purpose, she's probably just a human who doesn't know how to cope with your asperger. That's why i think life is better when no one knows you are an aspie, Asperger syndrome can't be explained and not even us understand ourselves completely.

Telling her that this bothers you would probably help, but you gotta accept that people do things like this and you cant go all your life teaching people that you are different and they need to be honest with you at all times. You are the stranger in this planet, it's you who has to adapt to them.