Would You Date Someone Who Waits Till Marriage For Sex?

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Yes or No?

If I had to do it all over again, I'd defo wait. Started out with my first fiancée like that. But after dating all through high school and into college and marriage seemingly a matter of months away, hormones finally caught up with us.

To this day I have a negative feeling about lengthy dating and engagements. Just get married, get it over with, and take all those big, momentous events like sex and kids with the ONE person you were meant for.

Just my 2¢.

I'm not religious and I can't think of any other reason than religion why someone would wait till marriage. A person who waits till marriage likely takes their religion serious and their religion plays a mayor role in their everyday life. So no, I'd likely not date someone who wants to wait till marriage for sex, because what we believe and how we want to live our lives would likely be too different.

Well, I mean it's not an obstacle for me. But I'd much rather date someone who can have sex before marriage. I want to find out whether we're sexually compatible sooner rather than later.

You might be right. Where religion (and most of society) gets it wrong is adding extra demands on kids ON TOP OF sexual expectations. Yes, wait for marriage. But first you have to go to finish high school. Then you have to go to college. Then you have to be settled and secure in your career. Ok, so, you mean I can't get married before 35 years old?

Religious folks should be consistent. Why not allow kids to get married early and provide a support system that allows them to complete their educational and career aspiration while allowing them to also raise children?

I lost my virginity when I was 21. Now that I am single again, I would be willing to date someone who is willing to wait a significant length of time to have sex, but not until marriage.

Even though I am a Christian, it's a big deal-breaker for me.

marriage is a legal contract.
superimposed sex rules upon that contract? not my cup of tea.

i don't take religion seriously, but am all for marriage.


maybe it's one of the reasons why the "girls from the west" mentality never appeal to me.

it sure hurts thinking that you had sex with/ or remembering how you lost your virginity to someone you don't "really" like, because u were young and dumb back then. easy sex isn't always fun.

i am also all for being with one decent person forever. i would't want to have a lot of relationships.

I could wait, for sure, and not just religious reasons. For one thing, you don't have to worry as much about diseases or pregnancies, but what's always been really important to me is that I'd prefer to have sex with someone who intends to stick around. You know what I mean?

Also, for some people, I think it might depend on whether or not "no sex" means "nothing below the belt".

Definitely not, i'm not a wait for marriage type of guy. That would be a deal breaker for me.

The reason I don't want to wait for marriage is because I think sex is an important part of a relationship. What happens if you two have drastically different sex drives? You want to have lots of sex, and she only wants to do it a few times a month? Not to mention a part of the reason I want a relationship is not just because of companionship and someone to hangout with but because of the physical intimacy. I want to experience that, to experience a womans body. Sex is too much on my mind for me to simply say it's not important because to me good sex is important. Of course it won't be any good my first time since i'm a virgin but i'm willing to get better

I could wait a 2-3 months till she felt comfortable but I definitely couldn't wait till marriage. I'm a 22 year old virgin, that means out of 22 years of being a virgin, a few months is literally nothing to me anymore. It goes by as quick as you snap your fingers.

It would have implied they are very christian, so no.

i would never marry anyone no matter what the circumstance.
i can not give up my free way of life where i can do as i please.
i could not stand having another conscious person around me who's happiness depends on my allocation of time to them.

i never really had a sex drive so i do not care about that, but freedom to do as i choose is paradise for me.

i own my house with nothing owing and i have plenty of money, and if i wish to get up at 4pm, then no one will even know let alone care.

if i do not want to comb my hair or have a shave, no one is here to care.

it is not in my core personality to need company and i guess in many ways that is a failing that others may feel sorry for, but to be attached to a social world of who thinks what they think, and who feels left out and all that s**t is not for me.

i read so many things about how people are agonizing over stuff that other people think.

everyone seems to want to style themselves into an "image" and they then want to go and display it and get social accolades from it, but i could not care at all.

i have a friend called tammy who is slightly ret*d (IQ about 70) but never the less i have found a way to communicate to her which is stimulating to both her and me.

she rings me every day about 3 times and reports what is going on in her world, and i can always find a way to make the conversation flourish.
that is deeply ingrained in her heart and i told her to get a boyfriend to satisfy her for sex, and she has one now, but he is apparently as boring as bat s**t (to those that find bat s**t uninteresting). she does not like him.

she wants to either marry me or come and live with me.

sorry about that tam.

no can do. so with that, you are quite within your rights to abandon me, but she can not.
she needs my attention every day many times.

i do love her very much. i am looking for a very large property of about 1,000 acres with 2 dwellings on it, and i told her if i buy one, then she can have the other house and always be within walking distance from me.

i have seen quite a few, but by the time i am ready to make an offer, the bloody things are sold.

anyway, it would take some time to sell my current house to get the funds to buy the other properties lock stock and barrel.
my house is worth more than 3 times the cost of some of these large rural properties with 2 houses on them because it is closer to sydney and is near fire and police and school and train and medical services.

the properties i am looking at are miles away from anything.

what ever. i told tammy that marriage is just a bit of paper, and if 2 people are meant to be together they will stay together always whether they are legally obliged to or not.
she agrees.

so i just got to find a way to secure a rural property with a few dwellings on it, but ...... don't know what else to say.

laying in bed with someone and looking into their eyes and having such intimate relations would sting the s**t out of my soul and i could not handle it.

different strokes for different folks.

i do sometimes envy people that were born with communal love in their souls.

Waiting till marriage is pretty stupid.
Wait and then discover that you are not physically compatible after already signing the contract? It's not something I would like to experience.
When you buy a car you get a test ride. Why don't you "test ride" the person you are planning to spend your whole life with?

Getting to bed with any stranger is stupid for different reasons.
But having sex when you are already engaged should be encouraged because it is the last possible moment. After marriage it will be too late to back off. Unless you are OK with divorce or willing to deal with adultery issues.

Yes, and not at all for religious reasons. I don't think sex was meant to be something of a consumer product, but something very special, so having it with just anybody would not seem like a good idea. Neither is having it regularly.

Perhaps because sex is a pretty low mechanical instinct that everybody has the same version of? The only differences really are based on experience, experience it is perfectly possibly to build with just anybody, including somebody you just got married to.

It's personality-traits that contain diversity, and things that cannot easily be changed. Everybody is able to have sex unless they have physical issues.