Should I just give it all up?

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K_Kelly
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08 Jun 2017, 8:02 pm

I feel like I should give up because I am not allowed for a relationship, let alone have my own standards for one. As a man, I feel very discouraged, I even think women are undeniably treated better by society than men. I wish something can be done to "fix" these, like that will ever happen. I feel jealous of all the girls who can afford to be picky.

I wish I had a job and a car, but the most serious work I got is from volunteering. I think I should die because it's hard for me to even get the process started. Because of my other disability, I often realize I have more challenges to overcome than I think.



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09 Jun 2017, 1:13 pm

Both genders have their unique struggles that depend on what part of the world they are in and many other variables (independent wealth, attractiveness, personality, age).

There are lots of men and lots of women who suffer and struggle because they don't fit into their societies roles for men/women.

It might not be obvious because people don't say it, but most people (probably all) modify their standards to some degree in order to find a partner. Most people don't find someone who is perfect and everything they want.

You don't have to be perfect for her and she doesn't have to be perfect for you to like her. There might be some things about her that annoy you. This is how people pair up.



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09 Jun 2017, 1:33 pm

What can I do? I feel like I have stagnated in the last few years. I want a partner so soon, so badly, I'm tired of being single anymore.



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09 Jun 2017, 1:42 pm

Did someone say "women complain about the occasional rape?" 8O

1 in 5 women, mate.
That's not "occasional" by any means.

That would make aggression and violence the norm for women.


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09 Jun 2017, 4:08 pm

The figures would be higher, I think, if women weren't shamed into not complaining.


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10 Jun 2017, 4:45 pm

Perhaps if you lower your standards a little, you could find a partner. Non-binary women are treated like crap, BTW.


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