Who apart from has pretended to be NT

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Maybe because I am only partially AS I have a habbit in public places to pretend that I have no problem to avoid stereotyping and I feel ashamed of it sometimes. I do it all the time in any social events it sometimes work and I can pass for NT unless I am really tired people must think I have a split personallity

I missed half the title out it suppose to say Who apart from me

I pretend to be NT in public sometimes.

I've been trying to pretend my whole life. I just didn't know I had anything like AS.

STILL, everyone knew my interests, some things I hated, that I was a bit off, etc....

Steve

I don't really have to pretend at work. I have a job I do well, and people think I'm okay. They do know I like cats but that is accepted, as everyone has pets of some kind.

when in society, i control myself a lot. people ask me a question, i give them direct and short answer, in order to avoid saying anything inappropriate. i talk without intonation as always, so they think i have my emotions under control. i ask questions only similar to the questions i've been asked. so someone asks me something, i answer and then say: 'and you?'. i always force myself to have a small confident smile on my face. and when i don't know how to keep the conversation on, i excuse myself and go take some drink or something to eat. people interpret this approach as a sign of my high intelligence, although i am no genius.

with close friends (though at the moment there are none), i am myself, so they know me, they know, that i say, in their point of view, things they would avoid. they know i am strange and they don't see that as a consequence of my intelligence

Much the same with me. I clam up and get very uptight out in public most times. Sometimes I sorta act strange I guess. And then there's the rare days that I feel like I can cope with most anyone.

Short, direct answers. Short, direct questions that stick with the other person's topic. Divulge little of my own disparate thoughts or feelings. I generally come across as either a completely bland creature or a space cadet at any given time.

I can pull it off pretty well to some extent.

But it's backfired more than a few times..because do it well enough and you normally find yourself in situations or things that you "can't pull off"...then when you suddenly hit overload and can't "act" anymore, everyone around wonders what the he$$ happened.

I pretend constantly unless I'm with my family. It usally works fine for interacting with people at the grocery store and such, unless I'm very tired or stressed out.

But when people start to spend more time around me (such as at work) they always figure out I'm very odd, but they just don't have a name for it, except 'weird' or 'crazy'.

I’ve tried to fit in
didn’t get me anywhere
other than thrown out
some people somewhere
will accept me for who I am
some people wherever
will accept me for what I’m not
they say to pose
to reach their heavenly sky
I contemplate within this prose
and I’d rather die
then live their lie

I did for a very long time and never felt comfortable in the least bit. Now that I'm going through the process of a diagnosis (and therapist is confirming already but has to find out a bit more first), my bf is constantly saying "when you get better...." or "you USED to do that with no problem". I just wish he'd understand that even though I used to do these things doesn't mean I was EVER comfortable with it, and that it's not something I'm just going to get "better" with. lol...there's a reason I took so easily to the life of a hermit.

Since I didn’t know what AS was until very late in life, I can’t say I pretended to be NT.

When I was in school, I did always make a huge effort (usually unsuccessful) to be cool and fit in. I also repressed a lot of my not-so-cool interests/obsessions... something I deeply regret now.

The older I get, the less I care about normality.

I don't really pretend to be anything I'm not. But at times I find it to be advantageous to dail down my Aspieness and be less obvious. That's hard to do since phsyically, I'm unusual looking for a woman, regardless to how I act. And I have a hard time doing like normal women do with clothes, make-up and doing their hair. So I just stand out.

But acting in a more mild Aspie way tends to help me get through the mundane stuff, even if it's frustrating at times, especially at work.

Don't we all?

And what's "only partially AS?" Again, aren't we all? Nobody has ALL of the symptoms, we all express it in different ways.